As an American society we are taught from a young age that first impressions are extremely important. In order to see why, one only has to observe the way someone walks into a room. It is human nature to constantly make appraisals and even stereotypes. What do you think about a woman sashaying through a doorway, refined and truly elegant? But what is elegant, and how did she gat that way? Elegance is more than just a first impression; it is a feeling, a lifestyle, and an aura all packaged up with a bow.
Audrey Hepburn, Grace Kelly, and Marilyn Monroe were all actresses in a time when elegance and glamour were everywhere. They did not have to worry whether or not they were perceived as elegant; it surrounded and enveloped their style, actions, and all of those who came into contact with them. The word “elegance" alone brings visions of luxury and the ultra feminine: gowns, pearls, and hours spent in front of the vanity applying creams and makeup to perfection. Elegance is also a stature. It is the way she walks, talks, eats, and even sleeps. Mannerisms and body language are just as important as the clothes elegant women wear and the makeup they put on. In the words of Coco Chanel, “Elegance does not consist of putting on a new dress. " It's how you wear the dress that counts.
Actresses, models, socialites, and everyday women have since lost their elegance, letting it fall to the side, making room for more “practical things. " Women are using their careers and motherhood as an excuse for being frumpy. However, they don't realize that are diminishing themselves from the femininity which they possess: beauty, mystery, and of course elegance.
Another more recent excuse is just as faulty. Some women claim they cannot be elegant because they lack natural beauty. Contrary to popular belief, a women lacking so-called “natural" beauty can still be elegant. True elegance is less about looks and more about presentation. An average plain jane with time can become far more elegant then an overly athletic beauty. Her beauty comes from within, a sort of confidence that stands out in a crowd, a confidence that pushes her to spend that extra thirty minutes shaving her legs (even in winter) and smothering herself in lotion. It makes her slip on high heels before double-checking her makeup in the mirror. Taking the time to spritz her neck with jasmine scent will make all the difference.
It is no easy task to be elegant. In fact, it is hard work, requiring a bottomless amount of patience and endurance. Getting ready (even for a casual event) takes time. Imagine a women who didn't. Instead she chose to leave the house hair undone and makeup-less. Her clothes are unmatched and she isn't wearing a stitch of perfume. What if that say day she met the guy of her dreams, or got a promotion; wouldn't she want to look her best? Why was she not prepared ahead of time, ready for anything and anyone? We should be ready to give a great impression no matter where we are, because we never know what may happen. Though our feet may hurt, and our heads could pound, we should smile and remember how beautiful we look. Acknowledge each passing glance, knowing we've left a great a first impression. As Katherine Hepburn (in Little Women) once said, “I feel perfectly miserable with nineteen hairpins sticking straight into my head. But, dear me, let us be elegant or die!"
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