Did you know that shaking hands between two people has been a gesture of greeting originated from the primitive cavemen since the prehistoric period. During that era, cavemen would raised their arms high up in the air and then exposing their palms whenever they cross paths and come upon each other. This is the common gesture used by them to reveal and indicate to the other party that they are not holding or concealing any weapons, thus avoiding any unnecessary confrontations.
After many centuries of evolution, this specific palms-in-air gesture has evolved and developed over time into the now modern interlocking and shaking of the palms. The present age greeting gesture is demonstrated both on the initial greeting and on departure. During this course of action, the hands are usually pumped about five to seven times.
Generally a prominent businessman and a simple farmer shake hands in very different and diverse ways. A handshake is akin to a signature, and can be regarded as part of an individual's personality. Taking into account the great importance of the lasting impression and impact generated during the first four to five minutes of an encounter, a person's initial image can be enhanced by improving on the handshake.
Basically, the fundamental purpose of the handshake is to build a brief and momentary physical rapport between people on their initial meeting. And a firm and positive handshake will create a good impression for it inspires trust and confidence. On the contrary, a weak and feeble handshake can only create a poor impression on the recipient's mind for it is signaling negative elements of uncertainty, hesitation, a lack of integrity, a lack of confidence and a lack of courage.
The simple gesture of a handshake can either express mutual respect shared between two individuals, or a slightly more aggressive interpretation of power struggle to signify who is commanding the higher position and status of the current situation. The more dominant individual will normally put the less aggressive partner in a submissive and compliant position by placing his palm face down to get the other person's palm to face upward when they are shaking hands.
Whereas shaking hands between two dominant and aggressive individuals will normally result in a firm and upright handshake as the two of them are trying to achieve the upper hand in a subconscious way. Ultimately, after sensing and acknowledging the strong characteristics of one another, mutual respect will eventually come into existence and thus providing a balanced partnership on equal footing.
However, there is a proven technique for the less aggressive individuals that can effectively dispel and overturn the dominant handshake to regain control of the situation. Upon greeting the more dominant individual, step forward with your left foot as when you are offering your right hand for the handshake. Now move towards to the left in front of the dominant person by bringing your right foot across. You are currently considered to have entered his personal space and by bringing your left leg across to your right leg you can easily turn your palm and change the handshake into an equal, upright position.
Due to the many cultural and regional differences, our greeting behaviors are greatly influenced by the factors of personal space and intimate zone requirements. People living in cities have a much smaller intimate zone compared to the country dwellers living in a rural society. The city folks will stand closer to you when shaking hands, displaying only a small distance between their wrist and the body. Whereas a person who was brought up in a rural area, will extend the arm to its full length and stand much further away from you when gripping your hand. Basically to set up a barrier to indicate the size of their private and intimate territory.
Having the knowledge to read and tell these basic essential differences when meeting up with people for the first time should allow you to improve your own body language, so that you can avoid unintentionally creating any uncomfortable situations and circumstances with others.
When engaging in a handshake, always remember to smile genuinely from the heart, or at least try your very best to show it, for this is the single most charming and alluring piece of our natural body language we can use to express ourselves freely, willingly and willfully.
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