Have you ever thought happiness was just out of you reach? Have you ever said, “I will be happy when that happens!" or “I will be happy when I do this!" Well, I am here to tell you today that those things have nothing to do with happiness. Those things don't create happiness in your life, you do! And happiness isn't that far away. For the next few minutes we are going to talk about four keys to happiness. When lived in our lives, these four keys make miracles and create happiness in our lives.
KEY ONE: Happiness is a Choice
Everyday when we wake up we have a decision to make. We can either choose to look for the best and be happy or we can choose to look for the worst and be a grouch. Aristotle said, “Happiness depends upon ourselves. " You see, it is a choice. Happiness is a decision we make everyday.
KEY TWO: The power of questions
Our brains work realistically like a computer. When you ask your brain a question, it will search and search and search and will give you answers to any question you ask it. The problem is that many people ask themselves lousy questions. For example, let's take two people. Let's call them Sally and Stephen. Sally gets up in the morning and asks herself questions such as, “I wonder what will go wrong today?" Well, her brain starts to work on that question, “What could go wrong? What could go wrong? What could go wrong?" All of a sudden, she is thinking about all kinds of things that could go wrong that day. And because of the self-fulfilling prophecy, those things go wrong and Sally has a bad day.
Stephen has a much different experience than Sally. In fact, Stephen sometimes misses breakfast. It isn't that he doesn't want to eat, he just sometimes forgets. Oh, by the way, his last name is Spielberg. Stephen Spielberg lives a very different life than the Sallys of the world. When he gets up, I imagine he asks himself questions such as, “What can I learn today? What can I improve today? What is going to go well today?" His brain gives him answers to those questions and he gets excited and rushes off without breakfast. And because of the same self-fulfilling prophecy, he expects the best, lives it, and has a great day. Make sure you are asking your computer (your brain) success questions everyday.
KEY THREE: Random acts of kindness
This concept has been around for some time but it really does work. When we become focused on helping other people, our challenges and worries seem to diminish. How can you help someone today? Who needs a lift of love in your life today? If you really want to make this concept come alive in your life, then do some of your acts of kindness’ anonymously. When you serve other people, you not only help them, you help yourself too.
KEY FOUR: Be a part of something bigger than yourself
Have you ever been part of a charity fund drive? How about a political campaign? If you have, you know exactly what I am talking about. Being a part of something bigger than yourself creates an excitement in your life that is almost unexplainable. The most exciting thing I am involved with is not a something but a Someone. I am talking about my faith in God. That faith has generated an excitement and happiness within me that is greater than anything else. What gets you excited? What do you want to be a part of ? Get involved and happiness will follow.
Well, there you have it. Four keys to happiness. Happiness is a choice, the power of questions, random acts of kindness, and be a part of something bigger than yourself. Give these four keys a try for just two weeks and I am convinced you will say, “Happiness wasn't that far away after all. "
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