Are you familiar with the phrase “Time heals all wounds?" This is one I often hear people say as they try to brush aside traumas and hurts in their lives.
But it is one of the most destructive cliches, simply because it sounds so close to the truth that it is difficult to spot the big lie here.
At risk of sounding too philosophical, time is an artificial structure that we have created, much like state or country lines. (Have you ever seen a state line? I used to look for them on the ground when I was a kid. )
What I say to clients when they say “time heals all wounds" is that time doesn't heal anything, time simply passes. It is what we do with our lives while time is passing that either helps us, heals us or keeps us stuck.
In my work over the years, I have noticed that some people seem to have an ability to accept the hurts and disappointments of life and then move on. They have a certain resiliency.
Others seem to stay stuck in their pain, living as if the painful events of their lives had occurred just moments ago.
As I sought to understand the strategies of these different types of people, some interesting differences made themselves clear.
What follows are lists of strategies for how to remain miserable and then strategies for how to heal, move on, and thrive.
How to stay miserable
How to movz on, heal and thrive
"Make a place for the event in your life and then put it in its place. "
It's important to remember that it did happen and it did affect you. At the same time, its place is in the past, much like a chapter in a book you have read and choose not to read again.
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