A great part of the work I do with my clients involves building a greater awareness of the beliefs they carry that can be impeding their intentions for creating health and well-being. Some common beliefs my clients share with me include things like:
Developing an awareness of the beliefs that are running our lives and possibly keeping stress and illness in place can make all the difference in your path towards health and well-being. We often think of our beliefs as “fact. " But when we separate belief from fact, recognize we can choose to believe differently, do differently, and have differently, a whole new world opens to us that has the power to greatly enhance our healing.
It's just my nature to be stressed-out all the time:
Believing that it is one's nature to be stressed-out is a common excuse that gives stress permission to recycle itself over and over again. When we carry that belief we conclude we are married to stress. Stress becomes a great part of our vocation in life. It's simply who we are so why fight it? Why try to change something that is so evidently inherent to us?
Here's the scoop-it simply isn't anyone's nature to be stressed out. It isn't inherently who you are. You don't need to change something inherent within yourself to become a master at silencing stress and reducing opportunity for illness. I'm not suggesting that you remove a limb from your body. That's something inherent to which you are.
I'm suggesting that those of us who attribute stress to being an inherent part of who we are acknowledge our addiction to stress. Addiction is separate from that which we are. We are not born addicted to stress-we create the addiction. We feed it. We learn and repeat behaviors, habits and actions that maintain it. We allow our minds to brew in stress based thinking.
Acknowledge the untruth that saturates the belief that it's just natural to be stressed-out all the time. Acknowledging this untruth will support you in reframing your belief and redirect you based on your new belief. Perhaps your new belief goes something like this: “It is my nature to seek and live a balanced life. " Imagine what new and proactive behaviors, thoughts, and actions might come when you choose to make this your truth, your new belief, your new way of being, doing and showing up in this life.
There isn't enough time in the day to take proper care of myself and my needs:
Yet if we don't take proper care of ourselves and make the time for our needs aren't we going to find ourselves living lesser and shorter lives? If we make the time to take proper care of ourselves and cater to our needs isn't it more likely that we will be increasing our opportunity to live longer, healthier and all-around-more-fruitful lives?
We get to choose our beliefs. Liberate yourself! Choose to believe that it is your nature to consciously seek and live a balanced life. If you live your life through this belief, (make it part of your personal code), your commitment to creating balance will be greater than any other commitments you have that might throw you out of balance and into the age old habit of perpetuating stress.
If you choose to believe that it's just your nature to be stressed out than you will continue to put everything else before your personal needs and ability to take proper care of yourself. If you believe that it is your true nature to seek and live a balanced life than you will find yourself committing to the thoughts, behaviors, habits and actions which perpetuate a balanced life. Time is never the enemy. Time is just a scapegoat we create. What we believe to be true implores us to use our time accordingly. Believe that it is your nature to seek, live and honor a balanced life.
If I could control the unexpected circumstances of my life I wouldn't need to worry about stress and illness:
Needing to control the unexpected circumstances of your life is never really the issue nor is “control" actually your ticket to physical, emotional, mental and spiritual well-being. Needing to control perpetuates our addiction to stress. Who would you be without the ability to believe that your life was dependent upon your ability to control the outcome of everything?
It's how we show up in our lives to meet the unexpected circumstances which can either grant us personal freedom or doom us to despair. Those who master stress are well versed in the art of being resourceful, accepting and grateful when the unexpected comes to pass. They choose to look for the opportunity in every situation and they do this when they consciously choose to let go of thoughts like, “This shouldn't be happening. " They entertain thoughts like, “Where's the gold nugget in this situation? How can this unexpected situation work to my advantage?"
Expecting everything in life to work out as we plan is an invitation to Stress-Ville! Why argue with reality? If I argue with reality when my car breaks down, or my boss fires my favorite co-worker, or my check gets lost in the mail I'm going to be spending my precious time, as well as my physical, emotional and mental health fighting against something I don't stand a chance of changing.
There's an old coaching trick called the 10/10 rule I often share with my clients when they are experiencing the stress that comes with failed expectations. I ask them:
At least 75% of the time my clients share with me that 10 weeks from now their circumstances won't even be an issue, and 10 months from now they will probably have forgotten all about it or think of it as a tiny bump on their road of life. My clients usually begin to giggle when I ask them how important their issue will be 10 years from now. That's usually when I hear, “Okay Coach! I see where you're going with this one. "
Now, let's round up those limiting beliefs again and wipe them out for good. Consider this your first big step in wiping out the cycle of stress and illness.
Beliefs that perpetuate stress and illness:
Beliefs that break the stress and illness cycle:
I invite you to take these last three beliefs, make them your own, build evidence in your own life to support their truth, and reap the emotional, mental.
Health and Wellness Coach Diana Bertoldo supports people challenged by stress and illness in playing a bigger role in their health and well-being. Visit Coach Diana and learn more about creating a life beyond Stress and illness today.