Where does the fear of critic come from? In fact nobody knows what originated this fear, but we know that the human being suffers it in a very widespread way.
Perhaps this is a consequence of our daily fight for the status, and either we know that other ones are really worth more than us, or they find something to criticize in us.
This fear so ingrained in the human being and that so much good would make us take out from us it is on the other hand a very important element to keep in mind if we are in commerce, because every year it reports juicy benefits, creating fashion articles.
Another reason why the fear of critic is today so strong, might be the little flexibility that the rulers of most of the countries have to receive critics (in some countries a critic can cost the life of a person).
The fear of critics destroys the capacity to imagine, the trust in itself, and the initiative of the individual, mainly if that critic comes from people whom he respects, like his own parents.
The critic has such a strength coming from people that we respect that sometimes reaches the value of the prophecy: how many mothers that raised their children telling them sentences like “if you keep on doing that, you will finish being a criminal as your father" found themselves spending their weekends making visits at some penitentiary.
Of all the services of which today we can enjoy, perhaps the most abundant to find is that of the critic. We find it all around us, and everybody seems to have an abundant stock to provide us; being generally the worst our own relatives.
THE MAIN SYMPTOMS OF THE FEAR TO THE CRITIC ARE:
Lack of naturalness: that it will be expressed with constant twinkling, stupidity in the movements, shyness and fear to be contacted by strange people
Lack of serenity: that it will be noticed as edginess in front of the other ones, lack of voice control and poor memory
Weak personality: lack of stability and slowness in the taking of decisions, lack of personal charm, impossibility to stand for something, and the tendency to grant the reason to the other ones; and to accept defeat without protesting.
Inferiority complex: the habit of boasting in front of others usually hides an inferiority feeling. To criticize others on their back and to flatter them in their presence; shows a great inability to accept the reasonable critics to our own errors.
Competition Attitude: this is the habit of spending more than we can, to be to the neighbor's height, and to imitate others in the way they express or dress themselves.
Lack of Initiative: this takes us to waste the opportunities of progress, because of the lack of trust in our own ideas, and fear to express our opinions.
Author of THE SECRET of The Magic Lamp and it's 42 Self Help CD with Subliminal Messages, that can be found at http://www.drbonomi.com and also author of The Easy Home Business Web Site at http://www.easy-home-business.com Dr. Bonomi's CD 32 is about Fear