You're sitting around the table, the meal is finished, and one slice of pie remains. You reach for it and suddenly Ma slaps your hand. “Grabbing the last piece of pie is selfish, Susie, " your Ma says. “Don't you see your sister sitting here?"
"No, I don't want her. I'll take the pie, thanks. "
Of course you get a severe scolding, and possibly a smack across the mouth for your smart aleck remark.
Much of our early training centers around teaching us to share. Babies are very elemental, self-centered creatures, and their primary interest is getting their appetites satisfied.
So parents, teachers and others go to great lengths helping us to “overcome" this shortcoming of ours. They teach us how important it is to think of others.
You've been around people who never learned this lesson, and their selfish, self-centered ways are hard to put up with. They're always grabbing the best for themselves, making others wait, and being generally unaware of what others want from a relationship.
Those people didn't learn enough about sharing.
At the opposite extreme, we find those who learned too much about self-denial. They not only never take the last piece of pie, they never get any pie. In fact, too much of any good thing makes them nervous. They can't relax and just enjoy the wonders that life has to offer.
During childhood, while we were busy learning all about the dangers of selfishness, we didn't get nearly as many lessons in self-esteem - the ability simply to like and accept oneself. Why this lack?
The short answer. . . few adults know much about that subject, so how can they teach it?
But before we're finished with this topic, we'll come back to the question of self-esteem and how you can get more of it. Much more.
After all, liking yourself is your birthright.
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