Kevin: So, what's next in the Magic 100 system?
Dax: What's next is know why you want it. To be really, really honest, most people don't know why they want what they want. Or they will never admit it to themselves. You know what, they'll say “oh yeah I would like a new Land Rover Discovery", in my case you know? “Why do I want it?" Know it's a great car. And that's when most people start, “it's a great car; made me feel, basically when I actually went through “why do I want it" phase, what I really, really, really came down to it was: it would make me feel successful, it would make me feel special, it would make me feel like I made it. Those are the obvious reasons. Because it is a great car, it's got x horsepower, and the wheels are shinning; they are not really good reasons. They are not the things that I see that are going to hold you on course when things get tough, okay? But, when you know why you want it, when you get to the bottom of the real reason well, actually you know? Again, if I even dig a little bit deeper; for most of my life I felt poor, and I felt like I wasn't going to amount to anything. This was going to make me feel rich, like I was turning into something that I wanted to do.
Kevin: Right, fantastic stuff. So, we have gone through the “why". So now; what are the next couple of steps?
Dax: The next couple of steps. Know the price. There is a price for everything. You know, you want new shoes, there is a price. You want to get fit, there is a price. Too many people they enter into the beginning phases of a goal, maybe thinking about what they want it and why they want it, but they don't actually say; what is this going to cost me? It might cost you in money. It might cost you in time, commitment, effort, and might cost you in things that; you know, if we are talking about health and fitness, the things that you may have to abstain from.
All I ask, in my personal training students here in the UK, we have; I just finished a team meeting just before I came up and some of my coaches were saying I am having problems with X, you know, and she is saying to me that she is unhappy with the right improvement that she is making. So, I said okay, let me see her journal. She has not been paying; we told her up front what the price was. We said no wheat, dairy, caffeine or alcohol. You've got to do your homework twice a day, which is, they are only 10 minutes homework actually, but you've got to do them twice a day, you are going to read these books, you are going to go to sleep at this time at night, you can't do this, you must do this . . . That's not just us being really butting up; you telling me what your stated game is and me telling you the quickest way of getting there.
Kevin: I think is fantastic that you put it so simply because a lot of people do spend a lot of time planning how they are going to be healthy, and then they get right to the point where, you know? They know what needs to be done and just freeze. What's the tipping point there?
Dax: The tipping point is, very often what I have found is the people that; the people that struggle with paying the price didn't commit successfully in the second phase, right? They weren't really honest with why they wanted it.
Yeah, and nine times out of ten when I find the person who fails to pay the price, it is going to be someone who wasn't really honest with themselves about why they wanted it. The other one time out of ten will be a person that once they get there, once they get to the point of paying the price is usually because they don't believe that the paying of the price will bring them the goods. Yeah, they are terrified. If I tell you that the price is X amount of workout per week, eat this way, go to sleep at this time and you go to sleep later, you only do half the workouts, and you have changed your nutritional strategy; you have not paid the price. And you are not going to get the goods.
Kevin: Wow! How do you practice differently now then you did when you
first started? How has your approached changed with people, with the people you work with?
Dax: I am going; I'll rap that up in really one simple answerable word, its systems. I was always a bit of flight by the seat of my pants kind of guy. I am still very much in tune with my feelings and my emotive factors. I still pay a lot of attention to those but I've also tried to set systems up around things that mean; I guess I can reproduce myself. Instead of being one Dax Moy, there are twenty people in my studios doing things exactly the same way Dax Moy does them. So, you get the same workout with them that you'll get with me. I guess that is one of the biggest things; system, I don't just mean in terms of my business no, I've got a systematic approach in my year. Every single twelve weeks my family and I take a vacation, every twelve weeks without fail. I would consider my year to be spirally down if that didn't happened. I don't work Wednesday or Friday evenings anymore. No, that is not part of my system. I work rest of the; I don't work weekends either anymore actually. It's kind of like saying, look for most things there are some exceptions to the rule, but most of us, don't live within the rule; we live within the exceptions. I think that's what I was doing. That is what a lot of my clients do. That is what my students do. That is what a lot of my readers do. They spend their lives living within the exceptions.
Kevin: Well, it kind of answers my last question. If everyone took and maybe you can expand on that; if everyone took one thing away from this particular call, what will it be?
Dax: Set in place a system that will make you happy. For me happiness is the ultimate aim of life. You getting; you want to lose 20 or 30 pounds, whatever it is, because being the way and looking the way you look in the mirror at the moment is making you unhappy. With these things to be happy so, why not set in place systems that otherwise you go, you know; the best time to do this is on the days that you are feeling happier the most. And you sit down and you say; you know I am having a great day today. Why am I feeling so great today? I had a great conversation with someone today you know. I had a great talk with someone today. I went for a great meal at lunch time, I didn't rush; I took my time; I still had time to read a book, you know. My desk was clear when I got into work this morning that made me feel completely different for the start of my day. These are all just ingredients, they are the recipe for happy and none of us have exactly the same recipe. For example, in my life, I also as well as my family; value adventure. So, that is where the twelve weeks vacation comes in. My vacations are pretty adventurous. I have lived in the outback of Australia in a camp cabana. I have parachuted on to the Great Barrier.
So, if I get all the other ingredients and I go, hey I tell my family that I love them; my work is going great; I had a great meal and I read a book, but now twelve weeks have gone by and I go, God I haven't had any adventure anymore; I start to feel less than me. I no longer feel like me. I feel that in some way I'm starting to diminish.
So, many people are going through life losing themselves. That's because, quite simply, they are not following their own rules. If you don't like the word rules, take that word and use the word recipe. You are not following your own recipe for what makes you happy. You know what it is; you know what the ingredients are. I need this amount of time; this amount of money; I need to read these amounts of books; this is the type of body I want; this is the type of sex life I want; this is this, this, this, this, and this, and this, and this. That's your recipe ingredients but the only trouble is; most people either aren't going out, you know; they are living on opposite ingredients, they are doing all the things they hate in life and they are wondering why their life is crap. They might be getting some of the ingredients but not the rest and when they do get them, they never mixed them together. What I mean by mixing them together is creating that system. Here is an interesting thing, most people are looking; I hate people all the time telling me that they are trying to create work life balance, work life balance, work life balance; you hear this? And, I used to be a coach that tried to help people create work life balance. It was only last six months you know; that is non-sense. We don't want work life balance. Nothing in life is balance because once it becomes balance, it becomes still. Unless its movement, life's action. So, we don't want work life balance at all. I mean, you picture a see-saw right? When the see-saw is at balance, when its balance it is at rest; it is not moving.
Kevin: Wow! You know every time I've interviewed and talked with you Dax; I've really gotten some great insights from it. This is incredible stuff and we are running out of time.
Let me do a little talk here because I have the Magic 100 program and I did it and one of my goals was to go to California and I had no reason whatsoever to go to California and I just put it down there because I just kind of wanted to go. The funny thing about it is that things fell into place, I mean almost within 30 days and I had a trip planned to go to California and I had a business meeting out there and there was an Expo out there, and then, it was just insane how it happened. Is that once you do set that intention and you write it down and you say it out allow, man it just happens. And, just as a testimony to the Magic 100 for me is that I have done it and the power of it is just incredible and so.
Kevin Gianni the host of "Renegade Health Show" - a fun and informative daily health show that is changing the perception of health across the world. His is an internationally known health advocate, author, and film consultant. He has helped thousands and thousands of people in over 21 countries though online health teleseminars about abundance, optimum health and longevity He is also the creator and co-author of "The Busy Person's Fitness Solution"