Desires, desires, desires-. We are obsessed by them. How a single human can have so much desires. No one can answer this question. One of our desires is fulfilled, thousand more comes up instantly. Desires are not bound to anybody. A rich can have them and simultaneously a poor can also. Desires are some thing, which everybody has in abundance. Every one has its own set of desires. Someone desires for money and other for a beautiful wife. Desires are endless. They are for a small trivia to highly expensive things.
Is it good to have a desire or not? Desires are good, if they are in controlled number and in ones achievable limit. Desires provide us the energy to fulfill our dreams. It gives our goals the motive and direction. One can only fulfill his dreams, if he has desire for it. Desire is first basic thing to achieve something. All the world leaders who have achieved excellence in their lives have strong desire for achievement. Desire work as the basic ingredient in fulfilling our dreams. Therefore desires are necessary, as they give direction to our life.
However on the contrary, we are usually over burdened by our desires. We have desires much more than what we can achieve or is in our limits. Most of our desires originate due to the others achievements or their lifestyle. We want to become or look like them. Second the world is shrinking, making more things in our reach. This is putting more pressure on our decision power. TV and Media are also increasing our desires by providing us information about lot of thing. Ours friends and relative’s achievement also generates more desires on us. Which make us under more pressure of desires?
If we do not control our desires at right time can swallow everything of us. Many people do lot of mistakes due to these desires. Like take huge loans which are difficult to repay for them. We spend unwisely on irrelevant things. We do not save for our future. This thing if not taken care of can take away our happiness and make us miserable. But few people thing about this and go on increasing desires their whole life. A child is born with few desires. But as, he progress through life, he starts accommodating lot of desires.
There is nothing bad in increasing desires, but the main problem come when they remain unfulfilled. More desires we have, more the chances of unfulfilled desires. And more the unfulfilled desires, more sad we are. Therefore we born as a happy child and die as sad human being. We have to learn this simple principle in life that we can not achieve everything in life. We have to only plan our life and achieve things wisely. Consider this formula of Happiness- Happiness= Desires fulfilled/desires new generated+ old desires
Happier we will be when the denominator is more and base is less. We only consider about increasing the denominator and not decreasing the base. Where as we can do the reverse of it better. It is not possible in this world to achieve everything; however it is possible to limit our desires. We can become happy by using the second way of decreasing base. Therefore by making our desires in control we can become happy.
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