So you want to be happy? Happiness is not a big secret that no one gets. It is easy to acheive and keep. We all feel happy from time to time, the trick is being happy most of the time. If you want happiness here are some simple steps to finding and keeping it.
First, don't confuse happiness. Happiness is not about winning, or wining or dining. It's not about who you know, and how much cash you have on hand, or the hot sex you had last night. Happiness is about how you feel about you - as a person. Do you like yourself? If the answer is yes, well you are probably already well on the way to a happy life.
Next, take control of your mind. Think positive happy thoughts. Everytime you think a harsh, cruel, or jealous thought stop it in its tracks. Use your angel on your shoulder, and follow its advice. Be nice, in your head, and kind friendly relations with others will follow.
Give freely. Be nice to yourself, and think kind thoughts about yourself, take yourself for a walk or buy yourself a treat. Give compliments to others, give some one a break or volunteer to take on some extra work to help some one out. Buy some one a gift and surprise them, or give it to them without them knowing who give it. Give freely to yourself and others and you'll find that you will be happier in life.
Stop thinking happiness is about the pursuit of pleasure or whealth and start thinking its about kind thoughts and deeds. When we all realize these simple truths and start practicing, the world will be a better place. Enjoy your life, so the others around you find the joy they seek.
Vince Chiles, LCSW is the author of a self-published book Happiness in Five Minutes a Day which is scheduled to be released to the public 3/26/08. Information about Vince and his book can be obtained by going to http://www.happinessinfive.com