So, you want it now, all of it… Not willing to wait patiently at the gate of happiness and success you struggle, pursue, push, pull, fret, and stew over why life doesn’t give you what you want when you want it.
Welcome to a life filled with stress, disappointment, anxiety and wasted days and months. Life is not about what will come into your life in the future, it is about what is in your life now. Whether it is - failure or success, happiness or unhappiness, wealth or poverty, giving or getting, being alone or with others. Life is a perfect example of the ebb and flow of the sea. Some days are filled with joy, others with sadness and disappointment. Some are filled with rewards while others are filled with paying the price not knowing whether the rewards will ever be there.
Once you accept anything – the struggle is over. Once you turn over your frustrations, desires, dreams, hopes and life to life you will be amazed at how quickly what you need (not necessarily what you want) will appear. Yes, everyone seems to get different rewards for their effort. Why does one author sell millions of books while another struggles to sell hundreds? Don’t know folks. I just know that’s just the way life is.
Why does one person find their true love in this life while others wait patientlyr for their love to appear? Why do some people have a great deal while others scrape by day after day? I don’t have a clue. I have been to the mountaintop of success and I have spent time in the valley of despair. I know the frustration of waiting and the joy of effort. I know the anxiety of false hope and I have experienced the thrill of unexpected success. Why?
I can only tell you once I released and learned to live with patience, whatever was due me in relationship to my effort, desires and dreams came to me. It didn’t always look like I pictured it, but nonetheless what I earned, deserved or needed came into my life. The skill I had to develop was that of acceptance not manipulation.
I had to learn to accept with dignity, gratitude and love rather than whine, complain and moan about why what came did not match my desires. Life is like this. Everyone gets what they get in life for many reasons. I no longer question the motives of God, the lessons of life and the outcomes I get. This does not mean to imply that I sit in my office waiting for the phone to ring and fed ex to deliver good news and checks.
It just means that I have to do my part and then let go of what the picture will look like when it is finished.
Tim Connor, CSP is an internationally renowned sales, relationship, management and leadership speaker, trainer and best selling author. Since 1981 he has given over 3500 presentations in 21 countries on a variety of sales, management and relationship topics. He is the best selling author of over 60 books including; Soft Sell, That’s Life, Peace Of Mind and The Male Gift Giving Survival Guide. He can be reached at firstname.lastname@example.org , 704-895-1230 or visit his website at http://www.timconnor.com .