It is never easy to handle the death of a loved one and to recover from the grief. Even if someone that you love has a terminal illness and you are told that they will eventually die, it does not make it any easier for the family. Your emotions are put to the test and only the bond and unity of those around you can you even take the first step into the grieving process.
If you have lived long enough, you will have lost a dear one to death and so here are some practical steps to venturing on the path to recovery. It may take years for some and a lifetime for others. However, it is quite normal to go through different stages of grief and to allow yourself to do so. Do not bottle up your feelings because those pent-up emotions can cause you to become ill, stressed and depressed.
Talk about your feelings to your family and dear friends. If you are comfortable with it, share it with strangers too, but always spend more time talking about the positive of who your loved one was to you and sharing the good times that you once had with them. Here are nine practical ideas of recovery that will help in some way to get you past.
1. Whenever you feel like it, visit your loved one's grave and sit there and talk as if they can hear you. This is quite therapeutic. Let them know how you feel at that moment and if the tears come, which they will, let them flow out of your heart with sincerity.
2. Give yourself time to associate with others because the healing process might warrant that you take time to reflect depending on your personality. Some people prefer to be around others while others want to withdraw for privacy and time to consider what just happened to them and how they will handle it.
3. Don't be afraid to revisit those dreams and aspirations that you might have once shared with your loved one. They will obviously change so do not be afraid to spend time to deal with it because you will definitely have to do so to secure your future.
4. While other people will be sensitive to your feelings and might not want to disturb you, let them know when you are ready to talk and what you want to talk about. You are going to need your friends and families so don't push them away.
5. Accept the things that you cannot change and be courageous to change those things that you can and gain the wisdom to know the difference - the “Serenity Prayer. "
6. Thrive on the memories of your loved one. If you have to put a scrapbook together especially for them with pictures of the past, then by all means do so. This can service as a way to help you to find some sense of peace in the midst of your grief.
7. Create a journal that you can use to write your feelings down each day or each week. This exercise will help you to know how you are feeling and the progress that you are making. Pour your heart out because no one else has to read it, but you.
8. You will need rest; as much as possible. Times of relaxation, taking naps and just hanging out is part of what you have to do. Some people like to stay busy, but when all that is gone, they still have to face the truth.
9. Lastly, take some time to write a letter to the person you lost. Tell them of your feelings about their absence. Let them know what your wishes are. Tell them how you are doing and let them know how much you loved them.
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