One of the saddest days of my life was the day that my father ended his struggle with cancer. Initially there was the relief that he would no longer suffer, followed by the acceptance that there was no other answer for him, they had done all that they could, and his life cycle was complete. But what was shocking to me was the complete sadness and grief that I felt when reality set in. Logically I could accept that his life was over, but I was surprised by the truth and rawness when I spoke the words, “I never knew you could be so sad". And I meant it; never before had I felt so sad or experienced grief so intensely.
Have you ever had a similar experience or situation that caused you heartache? Perhaps you felt as if things would never be the same again. Maybe you were unsure of how you were going to get through it all. No matter where you are or what you have gone through, grieving isn't easy. Grief is a process and that process is necessary to live an emotionally healthy life.
But did you also know that there is power in grief? Learning to not only deal with unhappiness and sorrow but to grow from it, is a skill that will serve you throughout your life. Too often, people feel the need to pretend that grief doesn't exist. Grieving is not only ok, but it is essential to your well being. Additionally, by not allowing yourself to grieve you can actually cause more harm to yourself and those around you.
So what can you do to handle grief in a positive healthy way? How can you develop the skills you need to come out the other side more powerful than where you started?
First off, you must allow yourself to experience life as it is in that moment. If you feel like crying, then cry. If you feel like being by yourself, do so. And if you need support or comfort, ask for it. The single most important thing that you can do when a situation arises is to allow yourself to feel and experience your emotions as they occur. Your emotions help you gauge what's going on inside yourself and assist you in choosing what actions to take. They are your guidance system that will lead you to where you want to go. By listening to your feelings, you have the opportunity to work through your true thoughts, release those that don't serve you.
When you allow yourself to experience your emotions and then deal with what comes up, it can be very powerful. You will learn more about yourself, find the truth in your own life and move forward a little every day. By taking charge of your life through understanding your emotions , you give yourself time to adjust to your new situation, as well as find the tools that will help you handle and move through the process of grief.
Judy Davis a. k. a “The Direction Diva" is an entrepreneur, motivational speaker, published author and business owner. Her laid back, personal style incorporates humor and real life experience into everything that she does, while creating an atmosphere of trust and sincerity that people embrace.
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