In this world there are two kinds of people: Dream Achievers and Dream Bullies. Dream Achievers give life to dreams. Dream Bullies harass or destroy dreams. If you want to be a Dream Achiever, you must learn two things: how to avoid Dream Bullies and how to seek the company and support of other Dream Achievers.
Dream Bullies are, unfortunately, everywhere: in our families, work environment, spiritual community, gym, circle of friends, neighborhood club. Some of them are easier to spot than others. They all share one thing in common: they are afraid of dreams. They are afraid to take risks and make their innermost desires a reality. For this reason, they like killing everyone else’s dreams, as soon as they are aware of them.
How to Spot A Dream Bully
You can easily recognize Dream Bullies, once you know their main characteristics. Here is what to what for:
Movie characters who are Dream Bullies:
Real Women Have Curves: Carmen Garcia, Ana’s Mother
Field of Dreams: Mark, Ray Kinsella’s brother-in-law.
Billy Elliot: Jack Elliot, Billy’s father
How to Recognize A Dream Achiever
Dream Achievers are the complete opposite of Dream Bullies.
A great example of a Dream Achiever is that of Thomas Edison, who tried 20,000 times before he created the incandescent bulb. He never considered any of his attempts as a failure. Instead, he called them his 20,000 steps to success. He used to call failure “the greatest teacher of great inventors” and consider it essential in the learning process. He was a Dream Achiever who kept his laboratories staffed with hundreds of fellow Dream Achievers, all people who approached failures as opportunities for strength.
Now, think: if Thomas Edison had allowed a Dream Bully to kill his dream during his 20,000 efforts to put electricity in a bulb, how would the world be today?
Movie Characters Who Are Dream Achievers:
Working Girl: Tess McGill
Music of the Heart: Roberta Guaspari
Real Women Have Curves: Ana Garcia
Chariots of Fire: Eric Liddell
How Movies Can Help You Avoid Dream Bullies
Once you spot a Dream Bully in your immediate environment, you must do one thing and one thing alone: do not let him/her see your dream. Instead, seek support from allies who have nothing to lose if you make your dream reality. Create a plan of action that deflects the Dream Bully’s attention to other matters, irrelevant to your dream. If necessary, create a mock tragedy to keep the Dream Bully occupied and entertained. In the mean time, go after your dream! Only you can do it!
Using movies for inspiration to follow your dreams can help you stay on track. Complete the exercises in this section. From the following list, pick one or more movies and watch them alone or with friends. Then, answer the questions that follow.
Questions to Answer:
1. What is the main character’s dream?
2. Who is the Dream Bully?
3. How does the main character disarm the Dream Bully?
4. Is there a Dream Bully in your Life?
If you answer “no”, then you are very lucky! But if you answer “yes”, I suggest that you:
ABOUT THE AUTHOR
Maria Grace, Ph. D. , is an expert at teaching people how to learn lessons from popular movies to find the job, home, relationship, and healthy body and mind they want. She is a Fulbright scholar, licensed psychotherapist, sought-after public speaker and coach, and the author of “Reel Fulfillment: A 12-Step Plan for Transforming Your Life through Movies” (McGraw-Hill, 2005). “Reel Fulfillment” was praised by Publisher’s Weekly as one of the top “self help books out of the self-help box” for 2005-2006.
For more information visit http://www.mariagrace.com and http://www.reelfulfillment.com