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Coaching Yourself to Change Your Life - 14 Steps

Mackenzie Pearce

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I am about to teach you every secret that every successful person knows and follows, either intentionally or unintentionally. Either way, this is what they have in common.

FACT: Follow this list and your dreams will come true.

"Your best thinking got you were you are" Raymond Aaron

If your current life situation is not where you want to be, there is something you need to do, but first, there is something (or many things) you need to know.

No matter what your actions, if you do not change your thinking, you will only end up where you are again. It may look a little different but in the end it is still the same.

The same unhappy emotions, the same level of unsuccess will occur, it is only a matter of time. These scenarios can take the form in relationships, health, finances, business, weight- any area.

The problem is the same: You need to change your basic neuro linguistic mind makeup.

The good news is, it can be done!

It is that simple.


STEP 1: Have patience.

Realize that you came to this page for a reason: to learn what you need to know to attain the success you deserve.

STEP 2: Change your Neuro linguistic programming(NLP).

Your outside environment represents the inside your mind. If your environment is not conduce to happiness, security and joy, then that is because your mind is not either.

You have years and years of not thinking good thoughts, of self doubt, and of not trusting in the system God created for your success, all of which has created your current environment.

Now it is time to change your mind, and thus, your outside circumstances.

The first step to changing your NLP is to repeat to yourself at least 400 times a day: “I approve of myself" and “I love myself". Every time you think about any pressing situation, anytime you criticize yourself, anytime someone else criticizes you, repeat it.

Repeat it in your head, write it, sing it, yell it. SAY IT IN THE MIRROR AS YOU LOOK INTO YOUR EYES. And soon you will mean it and soon you will believe it and act accordingly.

STEP 3: Work with what you have been given.

If you would like to grant you more, work with what He has already entrusted to you and when you have managed that, He will defiantly, 100%, grant you more.

STEP 4: Understand that God is your only employer.

Your money/salary comes from only Him. And He will never lay you off as long as you follow His rules (which I am teaching you).

Have faith that this is true. How do you change the doubt? Change your NLP. (see step 2).

Repeat “God is my only employer thus I am blessed beyond belief".

IMPORTANT: All your affirmations that you are programming into your mind, must be in the positive! If you ask God to make your braver, He will respond by creating circumstances in which you must be brave.

I am guessing you want happiness and security, not bravery. Thank God for the happiness he has given you.

Instead of saying “worry-free" use the terms “secure, happy, at peace" as they are positive.

If you would like to me check out your affirmations, please send me an email as I would love love love to assist you anyway I can. Having correct affirmations is extremely important.

STEP 5: Thank Him for what he has given you.

God will give you more if you appreciate what you have now. Look for the positive, everyday and every night.

You will not get your new car by insulting your current one. Your anger and resentment will just be sent back to you in various ways. Just find things you appreciate about your current piece of junk, and smile while pretending you are driving your ideal mode of transport. Thank him repeatedly for the new car.

Thank Him in advance for what you would like. Do not worry about how it will come to you, as this is not your problem. Just thank God and feel the feelings as if you have already attained it and God will tell you what to do and give you the motivation to do it.

Be thankful, everyday, for all the good things you have: your books, your knowledge, your hair, your nails, your food, your fiends- everything.

God said to ask for things through His Son Jesus. So I do this often. Daily actually.

STEP 6: Keep your environment as positive as possible.

God will grant you every thought, whether you want it or not. Thus, keep your thoughts as positive as possible.

Successful people, from millionaires to billionaires almost always DO NOT WATCH THE NEWS. It is negative and you do not need that in your environment. If you would like positive news, feel free to sign up for our news. We aim to keep it as positive as possible (thus, nothing dramatic is reported but you will learn what you need to about the coaching profession, including important business and marketing updates:)

STEP 7: Ever hear of tithing?

The most successful and wealthiest people (think Buffet, Gates, Rockefeller) tithe.

10% of everything you make, off the top, must go to where you receive your spiritual guidance. Not your favorite charity, but where you receive your spiritual guidance. If you do not know where this is, pray on it, think on it, it will come to you.

THIS IS NON NEGOTIABLE. If you do not feel you have ten percent at this time, try anyway, give what you can and promise to do so when money comes in (and mean it) and God will believe you. He knows what is in your heart.

When you tithe, you will notice an increase in your income, and notice that items are cheaper for you. God will take his 10% either way, through unexpected bills, so you might as well do what you are supposed to and reap the rewards.

Bless the money, thank God in advance for everything He has given you and have faith that more is coming.

Why not try it at least? You will be glad you did.

STEP 8: Clean out your current environment.

You were not meant to keep everything forever. Items come into your life for a period of time, sometimes generations (according to Louise L. hay) but eventually the items move on.

You need to make way for the new items you want to buy. Thus, out with the old.

Successful people are very organized and don't keep clutter. Less is more.

Try boxing stuff up and putting it somewhere for awhile, if you haven't used it or wanted it for anything, you know what to do with it. But do something. Just get the stuff gone.

Anything that has sad memories you may want to store elsewhere. Happiness or bust people.

Be tough and be uncompromising here. Make it look easy.

Trust that the universe, by God's command, will replace your old stuff with newer, better stuff.

STEP 9: Ask for more.

Ask God, through His only Son, Jesus, for more. What do you want? What do you desire?

Ask from a place of calm not desperation.

Ask in the present tense, do not use the word “want" or God will think you will want to want that item. Thank Him in advance for providing it.

Remember, God loves to give His children gifts.

Ask for more then you ever dreamed possible.

STEP 10: Take action.

Remember step 3? Work with what you have. Take care of what God has given you.


Take care of the clients you do have, of the opportunities that arise, no matter how minor at first, that you have been given and do it with your best heart and efforts and dammit, you will rewarded in kind (God promised:).

Clean up the yard. God gave you that yard. Show Him respect as best you can.

STEP 11: Before you sleep. . .

Before you drift off to sleep (no news on right?) rethink your day and the events in it as if they went as your heart desired it. How happy would you be?

And recite some of your affirmations.

STEP 12: Smile darn it.

To show your thanks, smile. Be happy now. Live in the now.

Why do you want that great car? Not because of the steel, but because of the feelings associated with it. Security, happiness, contentment.

Why do you want more money? The same reasons: security, contentment, joy.

The crazy part is you can have those emotions now. Yes you really can!!!

The feeling of working somewhere great, of finally losing that last ten pounds, of getting your company off the ground, of having your practice full can be summoned to you now.

How? Pretend.

Try it. I dare you.

And remember, you may feel momentary joy when you achieve something new, but it will only be a temporary feeling, unless you learn to harness those feelings and call on them at will.

Example: If you win the US Open, do you think 10 years later, one year later, one month later, even ten minutes later you will have the same joy you felt in that very first moment? Nope.

And unless you change your NLP (with affirmations. positive thinking and feeling happy now) something else will happen in your life to keep your current unproductive, unsupportive feelings present, with or without the new house or new job.

Do you really think that driving a new car or winning an argument changes who you are, makes you a better person? You may feel temporarily better, but that is just temporary, you are still you. And really, when you hear yourself say that new house will make everything better, that is just your ego telling you crap. Crap. That's right, crap.

Life does not work like that. You are who you are no matter your failings or accomplishments. They do not change who you are inside. They do not define you. Nothing defines you. You are undefinable.

Whether you wear green pants or blue pants, are wearing the newest fashions or the oldest, have your hair done professionally or do it yourself, you are still you on the inside. Yes, for a few minutes you may think you feel like a better you, but that is just a temporary feeling.

So, should you not drive great cars and travel to amazing places and live a house full of love? On the contrary, you should. God wants you to. But know that these things do not define you. Nothing does. Confusing yes, but easier to accept then dispute.

If you are like my father who believes the measure of a man is in his accomplishments, I have to ask you, like I did my father (who has accomplished a fair bit) how happy are you? My father was not as happy as he could be, as I wanted to be, and am. I want to be happy all the time, not just when I win or achieve.

Then, how the heck do you get happy?

For starters, summon those feelings now. How would you feel when you won a marathon? Super cool right? How would you feel when you are wearing the hottest outfit? Feel that NOW!

Dance around your house like you would if you won the lottery! Why the heck not? It will just summon more happiness to you.

Happiness breeds happiness.

Feel safety in that knowledge that nothing can hurt the essence of you. Becoming aware of this is one of the first steps to creating joy and security and faith in your life and in all that God has given you and will continue to give you.

Every feeling you experience will pass. Good or bad. So you can enjoy the good without fear of losing it as you have accepted that it will pass. As will the bad. Think to your past, to a time when you felt like you would die from worry. Did that not pass? Not matter the outcome did that worst feeling pass?

Be aware. Awareness is a huge step to spiritual enlightenment.

Do not try to monitor your thoughts either, just pay attention to your emotions and choose the best ones you can.

Accept the sad ones, do not fight them as it will just make the situation worse, but choose happier ones as soon as possible. It does take practice. Have patience.

Treat yourself good. You deserve it.

Take joy in the now. If nothing changes could you be happy with what you have? If you could, more will come faster. If you are happy, despite what is going on around you and you do those steps listed above, trust me when I tell you your life is changing for the better, for the best.

Have patience. This new thinking will get easier in time.

STEP 13: Envision your life as you want it to be, as it should be, and do this daily.

Enjoy your life as you would if all your dreams came true. Shut your eyes and feel the love you would feel. Love is the strongest signal you can send out to God. Love yourself and it will radiate to everyone and everything around you and come back to you as well.
Believe it will happen!

STEP 14: Keep increasing your knowledge.

Recommended reading:

-You Can Heal Your Life, Louise L. Hay
-A New Earth, Eckart Tolle
-Spirit Driven Success, Dani Johnson (
-Ask And It Is Given, Esther and Jerry Hicks


Coach Mackenzie Pearce is a medical coach, success coach and owner of the Coaching Academy of North America Inc.

For marketing, business and coach training I invite you to visit my academy: The Coaching Academy of North America Inc:

For medical coaching (recovery from chronic or terminal dis-eases) or success coaching visit my web site:


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