What if you could know at any given time what the ‘right’ decision was for you to make? Well, you can. You've got your own ‘secret weapon’ to guarantee you always make the right choice.
What is it? It's your intuition. And your intuition communicates with you directly through your body. This is your sixth sense, your inklings, that ‘hair on the back of your neck’ stuff, your ‘gut feeling’.
The problem is that most of us have been socialised to ignore our intuition. This is when our fears, generated by our imagination, override the clear messages from our Inner Self.
Thus begins the war between our Inner Self, (intuition) and our Social Self (the socialised conscious mind).
Both the Inner Self and the Social Self want us to be happy. The Inner Self guides us to what is most joyful, while the Social Self aims to protect us from harm. The Social Self aims to put parameters and boundaries around behaviour and choices that might ultimately prove unhelpful.
Let me give you an example. Your Inner Self might find absolute glee in scampering nude on a beach. Your Social Self helps guide you to avoid upsetting others by restricting this behaviour to private venues. Though this is putting a leash on your Inner Self, it serves the Greater Good - for others who might not appreciate your free-spirited ‘exposure, ’ and also keeps you out of jail.
However, sometimes the Social Self gets a little too carried away in their protective inclinations and starts to clamp down hard. The Inner Self resents this lack of freedom and starts to kick up a fight. And it does so in the best way it knows- it sends signals through your body.
This is when people get stuck, confused, depressed, and distraught. And then sick.
Let me show you how this works in the real world.
I met with a client yesterday who wanted a promotion. As ‘Susan’ talked about her workplace woes and her constant fear of being judged, criticised, and passed over, I could see her shoulders creep up around her ears and her head slouch forward.
No surprise when she told me she has some major neck pain.
When I questioned her about her goal, Susan revealed that the thought of getting a promotion made her feel sick to the stomach at the possible jealousy and resentment of her colleagues.
You can see where this is going - there's no way on Buddha's green earth she was getting her promotion until her Inner Self AND her Social Self got what they needed.
Susan's Social Self needed to feel it was going to be safe from judgment. And Susan's Inner Self?
When I asked Susan what made her happy, she was stumped. She didn't know. I asked her to remember what it felt like in her body when she experienced something delightful. She honestly could not remember.
Susan's Social Self had been clamping down hard to keep her ‘safe': this meant Susan had to keep working, shut up and toe the company line, and stay firmly put or she would be out of work, disrespected by friends and family and on and on. Her Social Self had a whole litany of reasons why Susan had to just soldier on.
Meanwhile her Inner Self was miserable, wanted out, and was screaming for a little joy and freedom.
So her Inner Self rebelled and orchestrated a hysterectomy that required six weeks bed rest and recuperation. Ahh. . . relief.
Her Social Self still managed to cut off all messages from her Inner Self. Susan ignored her clear Inner Self's directive to ‘get the hell out’ and was dutifully following the Social Self's order to try and get a promotion.
Susan was aware enough to know that something wasn't right. She always felt stressed and negative.
The problem? Susan was completely disassociated from her body. Her body was like an awkward appendage - something to put up with - rather than a glorious instrument to experience life's fabulous vicissitudes.
Susan was trying to fix the problem from her head, in a logical way. But she was totally ignoring her Inner Self, and her Inner Self was starting to let her have it, in a big way, through her body.
I see this a lot with new clients. They come to me after trying to ‘solve the problem’ but can't get anywhere with it. Not only are they stuck, but they are disappointed in themselves for not being able to work it out on their own. They are all tied up in emotional knots, and this presents quite clearly in their body. For Susan it was in neck pain, fibroids, headaches. For another client it was constant allergies and toothaches. For yet another it was a rash.
Sometimes things are so drastic that our Inner Self knocks us off our feet - literally. One client chipped an ankle bone, another sprained her knee. I got cancer.
When I asked each of them what the ‘plus’ was from their injury (there is always a plus!), they both said it gave them a chance to slow down, reflect, and focus on what really mattered.
For me, cancer taught me to appreciate help and the love from my friends and family. It taught me about what was most valuable in my life.
But wouldn't it be nice to get these insights before you got sick or injured?
You can! Your body is the great communicator of your Inner Self, and it has two different messages for your conscious Social Self:
It either feels good
It feels bad.
If it feels good, you're on the right track.
If it feels bad, you're not.
That's it. Super simple.
And it's right every single time, no matter the objections of the Social Self with its ‘but. . . ', ‘what ifs. . . ', ‘if only. . . 'and you should. . . '
So how do we tune in to our Inner Self?
1. Pay attention to your body. Notice how it feels to feel happy, to feel sad, to feel bored. Where do these sensations appear in your body? Just observe and be curious.
2. Look after your body. It needs to be in good shape so it can be a good conduit of the Inner Self's messages. This means drinking plenty of water, herbal teas, eating well, sleeping well, and exercising.
3. Practise conscious awareness of your body through habits like yoga, pilates, and meditation. Your Inner Self is always there for you - are you listening?
4. Avoid things that numb your body: caffeine, alcohol, cigarettes, drugs, over eating, chocolate, sugar.
Your Inner Self will thank you for it. You'll experience a boost in confidence, happiness, and joy. Now that's a great way to live that even your Social Self will love.
Law of Attraction Block Buster Coach Zoe Routh helps busy professionals and business owners turbo-charge their personal effectiveness. Zoe has paddled 30 weeks by canoe, run 6 marathons, hiked hundreds of kilometres in Australia's outback, bellydanced at festivals, written a book, survived cancer, married a fair dinkum Aussie bloke, and wrestled a 6 meter crocodile. It's all true, except for the crocodile part. Sign up for more Law of Attraction Block Busting Tips and your free Law of Attraction Checklist in Compass Bearings at http://www.lawofattractionchecklist.com