Anger is a pervasive poison. It will ruin you, turning safety to fear, confidence to hopelessness, happiness to depression, and optimism to anxiety. It will ruin your relationships, turning peacefulness to hostility, comfort to animosity, love, and friendship to hatred, cooperation to rebellion, and intimacy to loneliness.
If anger is part of your life, you cannot hide from it. However, you can conquer it by learning how to control your hostile feelings. With an effective approach to controlling your anger, you and your loved ones can live a healthy and productive life.
The 3-steps for absolute anger control
Anger control requires the consistent and timely use of specific tools, to remain calm. Here is one useful tool you can use
to prevent the expression of anger.
Responsibility, Awareness, and Stop-anger, are three essential steps to absolute anger control. Memorize these 3-steps, use these 3-steps, and you will always stay calm.
1 - Responsibility
Take one hundred percent responsibility for your expressions of anger. If you try to blame anyone else for your anger, you are only giving yourself excuses and making it difficult to succeed at anger control. You chose how to react to a particular situation. You make yourself angry, no one else.
2 - Awareness
Become aware of what are your unique physical, emotional, and mental arousal states that signal growing anger. For example; a tensing of your muscles, racing thoughts, feeling trapped, or not being understood. Discover the sensations you typically experience that you can use as warning signs that you are becoming angry.
3 - Stop-anger
As soon as you become aware of growing anger, immediately take action. For example, turn a face-to-face conversation into a conversation over the phone to reduce the emotional intensity, leave the room, go for a walk, change how you think about the situation, or take a shower.
Whenever you feel the urge to get angry, use these three steps to control your behavior and remain calm.
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Abe Kass, M. A. , R. S. W. , R. M. F. T. , is a registered Social Worker, registered Marriage and Family Therapist, certified Clinical Hypnotherapist, and award-winning educator and writer. He has a busy family therapy practice working with individuals, couples, and their families in Toronto, Canada. Abe is a member of the Ontario College of Social Workers, the Ontario and American Associations for Marriage and Family Therapy, and the National Board for Certified Clinical Hypnotherapists.
He has worked as a professional for almost 20 years helping people of all ages, backgrounds, and abilities to free themselves from personal and relationship problems.
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