I knew it could be done. I wanted to try but I didn't know if I could do it.
I called my friend. He said he knew how to do it and would teach me.
He put his arms around me and started. I watched nervously in
the mirror. He finally finished and pulled back slowly.
I felt relieved that it was over. . .
I hate neckties.
Ha ha! Now, I'll bet that, as you were first reading that,
there were thoughts going through your mind that had
nothing to do with the tying of a necktie. Right?
Well, my purpose in using that little joke was to
reintroduce the idea that words can foster images in
the mind that are far different from what may be ‘intended’.
Therefore, affirmations should be crafted with great,
great care. The fact that people don't do this is a big
reason why they sometimes fail to work. Frankly,
if an affirmation is not showing some kind of result
within 7 days, certainly within 11, then there is something
in its wording that your subconscious is having trouble with.
For example, this affirmation looks okay:
"I, John, now earn $3,000 weekly. "
But, say it out loud. How does it sound now?
If it doesn't sound right, or feel quite right, it may be because what
your subconscious mind hears is, “I, John, now earn $3,000 WEAKLY. "
In other words, your affirmation has now become a command to exhibit
frailty or fragility (weakness).
So, always take great, great care in crafting your affirmations. Make sure
you are saying what you ‘intend’ to really say.
Here are some of my favorite affirmations. This will give you a chance to see
that there really is no one set way to compose them.
The important thing is how the affirmation makes you “feel" and what “images"
it generates in your mind.
*I always get what I want.
*Everything that happens to me empowers me.
*I have more money than I can spend.
*People I am attracted to are attracted to me.
*There is $10,000 in my savings account and it is supposed to be there.
*I choose to believe I will manifest the money I need.
*There are an infinite number of ways to easily manifest what I need.
*I allow myself to experience the best life has to offer.
*I am willing to release my anxiety about being wealthy.
Take your time when you read these. You may notice that some of them have a smaller
affirmation hidden within the larger one. This technique is inspired by Milton Erickson,
one of the most famous hypnotists of all time.
When it's all said and done, the most important thing is that, when you say an affirmation,
it should really feel like your affirmation. It should have a sense of firmness to it right off the bat.
Try not thinking of affirmations as programming tools, but focusing tools. You want to
redirect your awareness, not force your subconscious into compliance.
Remember what Dr. Michael Beckwith, one of the teachers on the dvd The Secret, says:
"Affirmations don't make something happen; they make something welcome. "
Thomas Lomax is a personal success coach who specializes in helping people line up what they say with what they want. Visit his websites: