There's been a lot of buzz lately over which is better, saying affirmations or asking questions.
There are those who say that asking questions is superior. For example, “When will I notice that I am eating healthier?" Or, “Why am I so smart?" Or, “Why do I always get what I really need at exactly the right time for me?"
Now, I like these. If you notice, I even put a hidden affirmation inside the first one and the third one. Cute, huh?
And, I understand the rationale behind this. Most human beings think, primarily, by asking and answering questions of themselves. So, if that's the case, why not use that to your advantage and ask yourself questions that empower you and send you in the direction of your goals?
Great! That makes sense. However, let's not overlook what the mind does when it is presented with a question. . . it looks for an answer. And, that answer will often show up in the form of. . . what?. . . an affirmation!
Let's use one of the queries from above. “Why am I so smart?" Answer: “Because you always know how to help John with his homework. " Or, “My friends constantly seek my advice. " Or, “I read 50 new books every year. "
Do you notice that these are affirmations?
Now, you may say, “But this is just telling the truth about how things already are. I do know this; I do do that. "
There, my friends, is the real secret to getting affirmations to work. When you say them, there must already be some degree of believability, or some feeling of certainty that this is how things are.
The art, or craft, of composing affirmations is to do so in such a way that you do not create any internal resistance. The best ones don't even raise any objections at all from your subconscious mind. . . at least not any that you can't easily overcome.
Remember now that human communication, by way of words, reduces down to 3 things: When we speak, we either state an affirmation, ask a question, or give a command. So, you can certainly use questions as a means to focus your mind if you wish. Just be careful to guard all your speech to insure that any responses from your deep mind, whether they are verbal, visual, or feeling ones, are compatible with what you want to achieve. This is how you achieve what NLP calls congruency and what many spiritual and metaphysical teachings call alignment.
Thomas Lomax is a personal success coach who specializes in helping people line up what they say with what they want. Visit his website: http://www.successwithaffirmations.info/