Body language is what we call the non-verbal or unspoken mode of communication and interaction we have with another person. As it involves gestures, mannerisms, and other bodily signs, body language is like a mirror that informs us of the thoughts and feelings of the other person in response to our words and actions.
Just in case if you think learning how to read and use body language is not that important, let me show you the actual statistics on the messages we receive from someone when we meet up.
* 8% of the information we receive is from what they actually say.
* 37% of information we receive is from the tone, inflection and speed of their voice.
* A staggering 55% of the information we receive is from their body language.
Imagine being able to create a great impression for work, business, and love by having the knowledge and ability to read other people's mind. It is definitely a very powerful tool to a successful life and overall personality development.
As it is very useful in having the knowledge to read other people's body language, bear in mind that it is also equally as important to learn how to send the correct signals and remove the wrong signals from your own body.
Please take note that many signals contributes to different meanings depending on the individual and scenario. Always look for that 3 or 4 signals that share the same message or the one-off inconsistent signal. Do keep in this in mind when you are assessing those signals. Below are some of the most common body language signals.
Body Language Signals:
Doesn't look you in the eyes:
* Being deceptive
* Lack of confidence
* Lack of confidence
Looks you in the eyes without staring:
* Self assured
* Sign of aggression
* Showing great interest
* High on drugs
* Feeling insecure
Running fingers through hair:
* Thinking hard
* Showing respect
* Low self-esteem
* Low confidence
* Feeling embarrass
* Indicates interest in another person
Vigorous leg shaking:
Hands chopping down:
* Antagonize another individual
Using the index finger to point at another person:
High blinking rate:
* Possible deception
Eyes looking and wandering around:
* Bored with the current situation or conversation
* Thinking about other things
* Wants to leave
* Very tense
* Defiant or triumphant
* Closed mind
* Possible rejection
* Possibly feeling vulnerable
* Open heart
* Defenses down
Having the ability to read other's signals is a sure way to effective communication. By observing how people move and gesture, you can look straight into their emotions. You are able to know the intensity of someone's feelings by the way he or she stands. You can detect the kind of mood the other person is in by the speed of his or her gestures. By having an insight into someone's feelings, you will be able to respond to situations accordingly as you are already forewarned and forearmed for whatever may happen next.
Take up fifteen to twenty minutes a day to study and observe the gestures of other people, as well as acquiring a conscious awareness of your own gestures. A great studying ground is anywhere that a lot of people meet and interact. One of the best places for human gestures observation will be at an airport where people openly express eagerness, anger, sorrow, happiness, impatience and many other emotions through gestures. Other excellent places will be at social functions, business meetings and parties.
Another excellent way of learning non-verbal communication will be watching television. Turn down the volume and try to understand what is going on just by watching the picture alone without looking at the subtitles. By turning up the volume every five minutes, you will be able to check how accurate your non-verbal readings are and before long it will be possible to watch an entire program without any sound or subtitles and fully understand what is happening, just as how the deaf people do.
Discover the secrets and learn how to easily read anyone like a book and decoding their inner feelings. By having the skill of reading body language, you get the power to have full control in any situation You will have a big edge over most people as you get to see what other people cannot.