Life is like a journey. There are long and short journeys; smooth and rocky roads; crooked and straight paths along the way. Some roads lead to a life of single blessedness, marriage, and religious vocation. There are also roads that lead to fame and fortune, victory and jubilation, success. Other roads may only lead to isolation, sadness and poverty, defeat and disappointment but the choices, decisions and responsibility are yours alone.
As with any journey, there are blind corners, unexpected detours, and crossroads in life. At the crossroads with four roads to choose from and with limited knowledge about where they lead to, which one will you take? How can you be sure to choose the right one along the way? Why should you choose to take any road when you could just stay where you are: at the crossroads?
The choices, decisions and responsibility are yours; there are no guarantees, it is your life.
You can never know where a road will lead you until you take it. There are no guarantees, the choices, decisions and responsibility are yours alone. This is one of the most important things you need to understand about life. The only thing you have power over is the decisions that you will make, and how you act and react to different situations. There are no guarantees that your decisions will always be right, but you must accept responsibility for them.
Wrong decisions are always known with hindsight.
Had you known that you were making a wrong decision, would you have gone along with it? Why would you choose a certain path when you knew it would get you lost? Why make a certain decision if you knew from the very beginning that it was not the right one. Only after you have made a decision and reflected on it do you realize its soundness. If the consequences or outcomes are good for you, then your decision was correct. Otherwise, your decision was wrong.
Take a risk: make the decision.
Since life offers no guarantees and you could know that your decision would be wrong until you made it, then you might as well take the risk and decide. Failing to take a decision is avoidance of risk or fear of making a mistake, but life is nothing if it is risk-free. But take care, taking risks is not about being careless and stupid.
Here are some pointers that could help you choose the best option when facing life’s crossroads:
- Gather as much information as you can about your situation.
Just ask yourself these 5 questions: what, who, when, where, and why. What is the situation? Who are the people involved? When did this happen? Where is this leading? Why are you in this situation? These are just some of the possible questions to ask about your situation.
- Identify and create options.
What options do the situation offer you? Sometimes they are few, but sometimes they are numerous. But what do you do when you think that the situation offers no options? This is the time that you create your own. Make your creative mind work and brainstorm the ideas, but make sure that you make the decision yourself in the end.
- Weigh the pros and cons of every option.
Assess each option by looking at the advantages and disadvantages it offers you. In this way, you get more insights about the consequences of such an option.
- Trust yourself and make that decision.
Now that you have assessed your options, it is now time to trust yourself. Remember that there are no guarantees and wrong decisions are best seen with hindsight. So the choices, decisions and responsibility are yours but believe that you are choosing the best option at this point.
Now that you have made a decision, be ready to face its consequences: good and bad. It may take you to a place of promise or to a land of problems. But the important thing is that you have chosen to live your life instead of remaining a bystander or a passive spectator to your own life. Whether it is the right decision or not, only time can tell. But do not regret it whatever the outcome. Instead, learn from it and remember that you always have the chance to make better decisions in the future.
Peter Fisher is an expert Author, Publisher and webmaster for http://www.your-positive-attitude.com where you will also find tons of Self Improvement Tips to help you with your choices, decisions and responsibility.