" Recognize what does matter, and if your brother ask you for something “outrageous, " do it because it does not matter. Refuse and your opinion establishes that it does matter to you. It is only you, therefore, who have made the request outrageous. . . " That's from the “Course In Miracles, " a wonderful book of thoughts. It's about forgiveness. Forgiving yourself first and then being able to forgive anyone you may come in contact with and experienced some kind of pain. If I am in that place within myself, I change my world.
The Course also says, " It is not up to you to change your brother, but merely accept him as he is. " Now that is well worth remembering, I can't tell you how many times I wanted to change someone into something other than themselves. Instead of focusing my attention on what I could change, I threw myself into someone else's business. Someone once said; " There are two types of business: yours and the other person's. Many people can't tell them apart. " So true, no doubt we think it easier to try to change others instead of our self. Where do I begin to change, and do I want to? I'm doing OK as I am, right?
We all have different answers and ask the question at different times, but we will change. Not because someone told us to, but because we want to. At some point, something touches us that brings us closer to who we are, and it comes in many forms. The list is long, religion of all kinds are life changing, whether it be Eastern or Western thought. Meditation, yoga, dreaming, daily events, success, failure, and our brothers, create an environment for change. What you believe will be the change. It will be what you experience, express and become.
That brings me back to what the Course says; “It doesn't matter, unless you make it so. " I make my world what it is by my beliefs, and no one can change them unless I want them to. I can be forgiving, sharing, compassionate and happy, or not, after all, it is I who grabs a thought each morning and creates a part of my life.
My belief is, ask me to do something “outrageous, " I'll do it, because to me, it doesn't matter, I set the mood for my thoughts and I attract what I think about; forgiveness, gratitude and Love. In the world of outrageous-ness, they are great things to ask for.
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