Being a good listener starts with paying attention to yourself—your own inner dialogue. We all talk to ourselves, but how many of us really listen? Sometimes the inner dialogue doesn’t even shape itself into words. It’s a song that’s been running through your head for a couple of days, or that twinge of intuition that you’ve been pushing to the back of your mind. Listening to yourself is about connecting with your inner wisdom, your deepest desires and dreams, and understanding what is truly in your heart. It’s listening to that little voice that wants to guide you to your best life.
Intuition is your Inner Compass As women, we understand the power of our intuition and how valuable it can be in steering our lives in the right direction. “Women’s intuition” we say by way of self-congratulation when things go our way. By better understanding what intuition is and how it works, we can proactively access and leverage our wise self to chart the best course for our lives. Intuition may appear to be random thoughts or the beginning of a subtle knowing. These rambling thoughts may or may not be well-formed arguments for or against something in your life, but you need to pay them attention nevertheless.
Often, intuition begins not as a loud scream but rather an inkling that something is not right or, conversely, that something feels good. When we listen to these messages and follow through with our “gut” feeling things work in our favor. On the other hand, if time isn’t taken to listen to your inner dialogue, to be with yourself, you may find the ability to connect with your intuition compromised. And, chances are, you may make decisions that are not in your best interest.
Create Space for your Thoughts Silence and patience are prerequisites for accessing your intuition. You may remember the insightful words of Simon and Garfunkel’s song from the 1960s The Sound of Silence.
“Hello darkness my old friend, I've come to talk with you again. Because a vision softly creeping Left its seed while I was sleeping, And the vision that was planted in my brain Still remains Within the sound of silence. ”
Sometimes it is difficult to bring that suppressed inner dialogue to the forefront of your awareness. You need to make space in your life to listen to yourself. Stopping the busyness of your life, even for a few minutes, to be with the silence surrounding you will promote a still and quiet mind. When in this state, true reflection can take place.
To hear the inner workings of your soul, you must also practice patience. Give yourself permission to take the time to capture your true longings. This may mean letting go of your need for instant answers to mirror the speedy pace of your life. Sometimes it’s enough just to have formed the question and let your inner dialogue and intuition work on the answer in the background of your mind.
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Lisa Martin is a certified coach who inspires working mothers to achieve success that’s balanced.
Author of Briefcase Moms: 10 Proven Practices to Balance Working Mothers’ Lives, Lisa is a sought-after expert and speaker on work-life balance issues. Known for her very personal and practical approach, Lisa coaches working mothers to know what they want and get what they want.
With 20 years of entrepreneurial and corporate experience, Lisa is also the founder and president of Briefcase Moms – a work-life coaching and training company that helps organizations attract, engage and retain working mothers. A mother herself, Lisa’s powerful presentations and programs have helped thousands of women define success and balance on their own terms. http://www.briefcasemoms.com