Do you often find yourself worrying about the things you don't want in your life? Like “I don't want to be alone forever", “I don't want my partner to leave me", “I don't want to get to 60 and wonder what if. . . ", “I don't want to be poor and struggling for money all the time?"
Fill in the blank: “I don't want. . . . " We all have them. Too many of them.
The amazing thing is that we spend an awful lot of time focussing on what we DON'T want rather than what we do want. The consequences? We spend a lot more time feeling terrible about where we are and our lot in life and about what the future may NOT bring. What also happens is that we tend to attract more of the things we DON'T want (life's way of throwing irony in our face). So we're busy thinking about all the things we DON'T want to happen, feeling pretty miserable, and then all of a sudden we are stuck in traffic jams, bumped into by a cranky shopper in the supermarket with an evil glare, receiving nasty emails from an irate colleague. This leaves us feeling even worse and we may crash the car, a tree branch goes through the roof, and the dog develops a pussy oozing cyst that requires expensive surgery.
Anyone had a week like that?!
Well there is an alternate way of existing. Let's take the ‘don't wants’ from the list above and see what it feels like to change them a little. . .
"I want a loving partner who cherishes me and honours me. "
"I want to experience all of life's adventures for years to come with my fabulous adoring partner. "
"I want to get to 60 and feel “wow" that was fabulous! I love my life! I love my friends! I want more!"
Feel good? Want to feel even better? Try it from the present tense:
"I have a loving partner who cherishes me and honours me. "
"I am experiencing all of life's adventures with my fabulous adoring partner. "
"I am 60 and I feel “wow" that was fabulous! I love my life! I love my friends! I want more!"
Notice how you feel reading this last set. This is a place of power and positive intentions. Use this strategy for everything you want - from a parking space near the entrance to the shops, to a new job, to the perfect partner.
Want to learn more about this? Read Lynn Grabhorn's “Excuse Me, Your LIFE is Waiting". I mentioned this book in the last edition. A few of you have gone out and are currently devouring it (I told you it was good!) Get it - now! Then tell me what kind of results you are getting with it - I want to hear all the stories!
As for me, I use this technique and I consistently get parking spots with ease, and my contact database doubled my target numbers for the month in one week! Go on - what are you waiting for!
Cancer survivor Zoe Routh is the Head Coach at Inner Compass, a personal development organisation that helps busy professionals work less and achieve more. Inner Compass offers practical strategies and solutions to improve personal effectiveness and live an inspired life. http://www.innercompass.com.au