If you could change anything in your life right now, what would it be? And why haven't you done it yet? If you're like most of us, the answer lies in your existing beliefs.
We often forget the powerful role our beliefs play in creating what we want. We can visualize, affirm, set goals, and work hard till the cows come home - but if we don't believe something is possible, we will resist the formation of it in our lives.
The good news is, once you understand how your beliefs are holding you back, you have full control over changing those limiting beliefs - and your life will change in awesome and spectacular ways!
Let's take a look at what most of us do when we decide we want something. We first express a desire or set a goal. I want to lose weight. I want to make more money. I want to buy a new car. Then, we immediately start coming up with reasons why it's not possible. I don't have time to exercise. My company isn't giving pay raises this year. I can't afford a new car.
What if, by changing those limiting beliefs, we could make the impossible become possible?
It's important to understand that to us, our beliefs are FACT. We have convinced ourselves that those facts are “truth. " However, think a moment about all the other “facts" that ended up not being true. We used to believe the earth was flat. We used to believe the sun revolved around the earth. We used to believe that space travel was impossible. We used to believe that a cancer diagnosis was an automatic death sentence. Ditto with AIDS. None of these things are “true" now, are they?
Think about some of the truths you have formed about your own life. Are they really true?
I'm not worthy of a loving relationship.
I'll never have a lot of money.
Rich people are rude.
Money is evil.
I'm not talented, I don't have any marketable skills.
Everything always goes wrong for me. v I have the worst luck of anyone I know.
I can't do that.
I don't have what it takes to be successful.
If you change these “facts" in your own mind, what might happen? You might attract a loving relationship. You might have a lot more money. You might recognize your own potential, start experiencing good fortune on a regular basis, and reach the level of success you dream about. Sounds good, doesn't it? :-)
But how? How do we change these truths in our own minds? This is the fun part. We have to convince ourselves that what we want is POSSIBLE.
Recently I've been playing a little game with myself called, “Why It's Possible. " I invite you to play along in your own life, because it is incredibly empowering and it will blast away those limiting beliefs and begin attracting what you desire.
As I described above, most of us will state a desire and then immediately begin telling ourselves why it's not possible. With my game, “Why It's Possible, " we simply add on some new thoughts that help us see why our desire IS possible. Here's how it works.
We state a desire: I want to lose weight. Limiting beliefs come up: Diets don't work for me, I don't have time to exercise. We then deliberately begin formulating ideas about “Why It's Possible": I don't have to diet to lose weight, I can just moderate how much I eat. I can fit more activity into my routine by parking my car farther away or taking the stairs instead of the elevator. There are plenty of slender, healthy people in this world who don't diet or exercise much! If they can do it, I can do it too.
Let's try it with another desire: I want more money. Limiting beliefs: My company isn't giving pay raises this year. I don't have the energy to get a second job. I've got too many bills. Why It's Possible: Money can come to me in so many ways, it doesn't have to be through my job. Money can come to me through lottery winnings, inheritance, unexpected bonuses, or I can even start a fun part-time business!
Here's the key: YOUR “WHY IT'S POSSIBLE" IDEAS MUST BE BELIEVABLE. If you don't believe in their validity, your limiting beliefs will NOT be transformed. That's so important to understand! With some beliefs, it might take time to come up with true, legitimate possibilities that you can honestly believe in.
Here's another important key: Reinforcement WILL be necessary. For smaller beliefs, you might be able to change them quickly and almost effortlessly. But for the big ones, you might need to keep playing the “Why It's Possible" game over and over.
As you keep reinforcing your new beliefs and you begin to believe that they really are possible, more and more doors will begin opening for you. That's what's been happening in my own life since I began playing this little game. Not only am I getting more of what I ask for, I'm getting things I didn't ask for. Everything is beginning to flow so much more smoothly and effortlessly. It will for you too, if you're willing to believe. :-)
Wendy Betterini is a freelance writer specializing in self-improvement and personal development concepts. Visit her website, http://www.WingsForTheHeart.com for free articles on positive thinking, goal-setting, self-esteem, personal growth, and more.