Stop Trying To Fix Everyone Else - Why Not Work On Yourself First

Tim Connor

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I have never understood why some people feel the need to ‘fix’ other people. We all need fixing in some way if you ask enough people. Someone, somewhere will have a problem with one of our attitudes, philosophies, behaviors, beliefs, values, and ad infinitum.

The interesting thing I have discovered, is that many of the people who are into ‘fixing’ need some major work themselves. (Isn't that a judgment? Sure is. I'm just seeing if you are paying attention and learning anything yet!)

Which one(s) of the following statements is/are true? We are all perfect. In the eyes of God, we are all perfect. In the eyes of our mother, we are all perfect. In the eyes of our spouse, we are all perfect. In our own eyes, we are perfect.

My guess is that few of the people in your life have total unconditional love for you. So, does this imply that you need to work on some aspect of your behavior? To improve? Yes and no. You are perfect just the way you are. Life is not about achieving better perfection in the future in the eyes of anyone. It is about growing in acceptance for who you are at any given moment, or time in your life. Yes, you will learn more, become more, and do more. But, these will not make you any better in the eyes of God.

Everyone today seems to be in a rush to somewhere else. They can't wait to graduate from college, get married, start a new position or career, get on vacation or home from vacation. Can't wait for Friday, Monday, Summer, Winter or the BIG GAME. Life is lived in the now. People who are impatient tend to live in the future.

You can not rush the timetable of the universe. If you try, you will live with frustration, anxiety, and stress Ultimately things happen when they are ready.

Only an idiot would plant his or her garden on a sunny Saturday in May, and inspect the results on Sunday morning. I can just hear this individual now, “Grow plants, grow. Hurry up and grow!" All things take time. Some take more time than others. Some things take a lifetime while others, years to reach maturity, fulfillment or success.

Patience can be easily seen on the faces, and in the demeanor of happy people. They are at ease with the process of their life. They are not in a rush to retire, find a life mate, fulfill a dream, or achieve their life's purpose by age 25.

Happy people love life, every day, one day at a time.

Tim Connor, CSP is an internationally renowned sales, management and leadership speaker, trainer and best selling author. Since 1981 he has given over 3500 presentations in 21 countries on a variety of sales, management, leadership and relationship topics. He is the best selling author of over 60 books including; Soft Sell, That’s Life, Peace Of Mind, 91 Challenges Managers Face Today and Your First Year In Sales. He can be reached at , 704-895-1230 or visit his website at .


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