There are four areas of limiting beliefs that many people need to deal with before they can begin to see ‘success’ in their lives and achieve their goals. Here they are:
1. It is wrong to ‘want’.
2. There is something inherently wrong with money. Poverty and humility go hand-in-hand. 3. Unconditional love and any type of ‘performance expectation’ are incompatible and in conflict with each other.
4. Rewarding someone proportionally to their performance is in conflict with the idea that we are to treat all people equally.
This article will deal with the first misperception that limits behavior, potential and as a consequence, success in achieving desired goals.
Misperception #1: “It is wrong to want. ”
Eskimos have 28 different words for snow. They can describe it in almost infinite variety. Their words describe its characteristics, its structure, it’s viscosity, their ability to mold or form it, it’s reaction to a person’s weight to describe just a few. Why do they have so many different words to describe snow? Because, it is incredibly important in their lives. They are surrounded by snow. Their very survival depends upon their ability to deal with it.
Skiers usually have about ten words to describe snow, and the words may vary somewhat depending upon the part of the country they ski in. In Colorado we have powder, deep powder, champagne powder, packed powder, packed, hard pack, wind pack, crust, breakable crust, corn, slush, crud and mashed potatoes. Back east they also have hard pack, ice, blue ice, slush and crud. Why do skiers have so many words for snow? Because, it’s very important to them and will determine their technique, the equipment they use, and whether they even want to go out that day.
All of you non-skiers are sitting there thinking, “Who cares? - I really don’t give a rip!” Why? Because all you care about is that it’s that nasty stuff you have to drive around in occasionally and move off of your sidewalk. It’s just not that important in the world you live in. What about a well-educated college graduate on the island of Fiji that has never left the island – how many words for snow do they have? Just one – snow. “Yeah, I heard about that. Rain freezes and turns white. How weird is that?!” It just doesn’t matter to them, so they only need one word for snow.
What’s the point of all this talk about snow? Simple. Does it make sense that the more important a concept is to you, the more words you will have to describe it? In fact, that is exactly the case. Try this on for size: There are 25 words in the Old Testament and 15 words in the New Testament that we translate into English with just one word – DESIRE. It occurs to me that the Hebrews and the Greeks understood desire much better than we do, and understood its importance much more than we do. When it comes to the concept of DESIRE, we rank right up there with the Fiji islander and the concept of snow. We use only one word to describe something that the Hebrews and Greeks thought was pretty important and complex. I think most of us just don’t get it. Out of curiosity, perhaps we ought to see what the Hebrews and Greeks had to say about ‘wanting’ – about DESIRE. See if there any patterns that you pick up as you read the following ancient verses.
"Hope deferred makes the heart sick, but when desire cometh it is a tree of life. "
"The desire of the righteous ends only in good. "
"The desire of the righteous will be granted. "
"A desire fulfilled is sweet to the soul. "
"The sluggard's desires will be the death of him because his hands refuse to work. "
"The house of the righteous contains great treasure, but the income of the wicked brings trouble. "
“The sluggard craves and gets nothing; but the desires of the diligent are fully satisfied. ”
"If any would not work, neither shall he eat. "
"Lazy hands make a man poor, but diligent hands bring wealth. "
It sounds like DESIRE is a pretty desirable thing doesn’t it? So, is DESIRE good or bad? Desire is neither good nor bad – it is neutral. It is not about whether DESIRE is good or bad. However, there are some qualifications that precede DESIRE for it to be OK. It comes down to whether or not you are living a righteous life and whether or not you are willing to work.
But the bottom line is that if you have a belief that it’s not OK to ‘want’, it’s not OK to DESIRE, you won’t strive or attempt to improve your life in any arena - you will behave in such a way to ensure that you don’t get anything.
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