Creating a wedding that honors tradition can be a great thing. There are certain things that say wedding in our mind, and if those things are part of your wedding, you, your families and your guests will immediately “get it. " Right, wedding going on.
You want to be careful with tradition during your wedding ceremony. You don't want to exclude or rank people because that was the way it was always done. It won't necessarily have a huge impact on your bottom line, however. Where you want to be careful about tradition is in the planning process and the reception. These are the places where tradition has said, “you must spend a lot of money on this area of the wedding and more over here. "If you've done the work to figure out where your values lie, you'll be able to make some choices about what pieces of tradition you want to incorporate in your wedding, and where you might want to look elsewhere. Tradition says, you must have:
- Engraved invitations: They're gorgeous. You may find you want them. But there are a lot of options today. There are e-mail invitations, hand-written snail mail invitations and elaborate hand-crafted beauties. What makes sense to you?
- Formal sit-down dinner: You know, this isn't always even lots of fun. I've done a lot of these. Breakfasts, lunches, picnics, potlucks. Whoever you are, whatever you like, whatever fits your budget.
- Outrageously expensive clothing: There are so many ways around this. Borrow, wear an heirloom, shop resale, have it made. What's important for your wedding?
- Entertainment: It's gotten to be the norm that there is a dj or a band. And that's fun. But you can actually get people involved with one another if you get them playing silly parlor games and having a good time. It's about choice and values.
- Table Decorations: Flowers are fabulous. But there are other alternatives. How ingenious and creative are you and your group? One of my friends has a farm and raises peacocks. We used them as table decorations along with candles. It was wonderful and so distinctive!
These are only five areas in which you can begin to look and think differently about the way you use tradition in your wedding. My advice is to lean (sparingly) on tradition in your wedding ceremony (there are some things that will just make your wedding vows and your wedding ceremony better. ) and then think outside the box for your reception.
You will not only save money, you might just wind up giving people a wonderful wedding they'll always remember. And then, you will have started a way of thinking about doing things that are fun, but not necessarily expensive. This is a huge boon to a marriage.
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