Wedding minister, wedding officiant or wedding celebrant are all terms that are used to describe the people who preside over wedding ceremonies. Your wedding ceremony is the crucial work of your wedding day. It should not only be beautiful, it should also be meaningful. It should not only represent the love you feel for one another on that day, it should also prepare you to live creatively into your marriage.
There are people who are good at their work who will give you a lovely ceremony. But an extraordinary celebrant will provide the following services for you.
- They write a ceremony for you based on your relationship. There are many clichés about marriage that have become clichés because they're true. And some of Love's truths will find their way into every ceremony. But each love story is different and particular and demands its own treatment. In the same way, the values and religious traditions represented should be ones which make sense in your life: both now and going forward. Your wedding ceremony should be about you, your story, your communities and your commitment to your future, which is based in the ways you love one another and the things you love about each other.
- They want to get to know you so they can do their job well. An officiant should want to spend enough time with you and have developed a process that will allow him or her to get to know you, or at least the important aspects of your relationship, well enough to present you well at your ceremony. I think my wedding ceremonies have really worked well when I walk away and everyone is trying to figure out whose relative I am and why they've never met me before, because look how well I know this couple.
- They believe that your relationship is going to succeed. Your wedding celebrant needs to know and needs to be able to speak to the reasons that your marriage will endure. She or he needs to understand what you love about one another and how your gifts and characteristics complement and support each other. Your community will hear the strength of your celebrant's faith in your marriage in the conviction of his/her voice and words. You will hear it over and over again as you reread your ceremony and recommit to your vows - vows that not only you, but also your celebrant knew you could keep.
- They understand that designing your perfect wedding ceremony needs to be building a foundation and tools to support your successful marriage. Starting with the marriage vows, the wedding ceremony should be built as a vehicle to support your marriage. What is going to get you through the tough times and help you celebrate the triumphs? What will encourage you to delight in the daily ins and outs of marital and family existence? Are there rituals that can carry over into daily life, reminders that will halt a behavior? Far too often even celebrants underestimate the power of ritual to encourage life.
- They see themselves as part of your support system, not merely a vendor. They are supplying a service, it's true, but their job on that day, leading up to that day and in the years to come is to supply support the couple needs to shine at their wedding ceremony and in their marriage. You deserve to be truly represented at your wedding ceremony and to have a great time during the ceremony and the rest of the day. Your wedding minister can be a big part of preparing you for the delight of the day!
Consider very carefully what kind of support is important to you as you prepare to stand before your community to pledge your heart to your beloved. You can have as much support as you need. You just have to look for it. And then make choices that will make your wedding ceremony wonderful, unforgettable and a solid platform for your marriage.
Bottom Line?: Give your relationship the chance it deserves to succeed wildly, against all odds! After all you deserve it. Your relationship deserves it! If you want in-depth pointers, ideas, information about designing your perfect wedding ceremony, explore my site! And now I'd like to invite you to sign up to receive 2 free templates for creating the wedding vows of your dreams and the marriage of a lifetime: http://annkeelerevans.org/weddings/free
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