Transitions in themselves are difficult. We leave something familiar behind and head toward something unknown. Even if the move was desired, there is always a period of adjustment, a time when things are not as comfortable as they were. We are in flux and not quite sure where we are going.
As familiar props fall away, we enter a rarified zone of unknown possibilities. Before new forms can come into existence, we first must pass through a place without form. This is the juice of the transition. It is here that the vacuum sucks in to itself all the things that belong to us. If we are brave enough to stay in this void long enough to allow the natural process to take place, we will draw to us what we need.
This is not merely wishful thinking. It is physics, a law of the universe that is always true. When you want to add something new to your life, get rid of something old. Throw something out, give away clothes, and get rid of the deadbeat boyfriend. The universe will recognize a vacuum, and it will soon be filled.
To understand how it works, we must be willing to stop trying to control the process. The more we panic and hastily add to the empty space, the further away we move from what nourishes our souls. There is a conscious evolution to this transition that will reveal itself in time. This potent period heralds a new beginning, and it is in our best interests to let go and get out of the way.
We may feel afraid, but that is okay. Sure, it's scary when we don't know what is happening, but fear has no power over us when we are willing to acknowledge the feeling, feel it, and do nothing. It is only our reaction to fear that causes us to be impatient and jump the gun. We are so petrified of the nothingness; we create something, anything, to hold on to.
In reality, we are more frightened of being afraid than we are of the actual nothingness. Once we surrender to not having all the parts of the puzzle, we can relax a little. We know we can step in and take charge if need be, but now is not the time. Even though our natural inclination is to do something, we need to do nothing and wait.
To stay in the void takes courage and discipline. The universe has innate intelligence and will automatically create a vacuum out of that nothingness. And left alone, that vacuum will pull to it exactly what we need.
Chapter 26 from Reality Works Copyright © 2002 Chandra Alexander
Chandra Alexander, MSW, has been living and teaching authenticity for the last thirty years. Selected by The Oprah Magazine as the Life Coach to deliver twelve coaching sessions to the grand prize winner of their Toyota Moving Forward contest, she also spent five years on NBC/TV/Daytime giving a weekly “Reality Check. " Her blog, http://ChandraUnplugged.com is a real find for any true seeker on the path to authenticity. Along with a private practice in Tampa, FL, she coaches clients all over the world in the areas of relationships, work and consciousness. To learn more about her books and CDs, visit her website at http://Coachgirl.com