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Defining Sexuality All in an Attempt to Understand Who We Are

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 Francis K Githinji (September 16, 2008)  Defining sexuality is not one of those things you can do in just a single sweeping sentence or statement. It is a broad subject that entails feelings, behaviors, and personal attitudes that adds up to an individuals sense of manhood or womanhood. In more than one ways, sexuality encompasses both public and private characters. The public opinion of an individual is very important when it . (Readiness)

Why He is Not Giving a Marriage Proposal

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 Francis K Githinji (September 14, 2008)  He keeps saying you are the right woman for him but two years down the line there is no marriage proposal. You keep wondering why he has not popped the question, yet each time you threaten to leave he pleads and begs you not to go. Your patience is running out and you would like to know why he is not proposing. There could be several reasons as to why he is not doing so. Men are .. (Readiness)

From Dating to I Do

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 Nicole Gayle (September 10, 2008)  EVERY woman wants to meet her one and true love, her soulmate, the man of her dreams. So if you're dating, you're probably wondering when your relationship will go from dating to marriage. But can I ask you a question? Do you want marriage or do you want marriage with your soul mate? If you're in the position where you feel you need a man and that you cannot do without one, then you .. (Readiness)

Will He Ever Propose?

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 A Aaron (September 07, 2008)  You've been going out and having a great time together with your man for a while now, and you're assuming that he'll pop the question anytime now and move on to a long-term relationship. You've been enjoying life like married couples do anyway, so why don't you just make it official, right? But is this really the next best step? Or are you thinking that this is the next best step based .. (Readiness)

Getting Ready For the Right Relationship

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 Linda Pucci (July 28, 2008)  We all want to find the “right" relationship. Here's the secret. The key toward finding the “right relationship" involves preparation. How do you go about getting ready for a great relationship? The following tips will help you get ready: 1. Know what is important to you in a relationship. What are your criteria for having a relationship with someone? Here you need to look . (Readiness)

Pre Marriage Questions You Need to Ask

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 Dana Rhinehart (July 16, 2008)  People simply don't learn enough about each other before they slip on the wedding band and say, “I do. " They fail to ask pre marriage questions about serious issues like money, children, spiritual beliefs, personal history, and so on. Asking the right pre marriage questions will help you decide if you've truly found “The One. " Although there hundreds of issues we could .. (Readiness)

Relationship Compatibility How to Be Sure Youve Got It

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 Trevor Emdon (July 15, 2008)  Love alone will not keep a relationship alive beyond the initial stages.  Compatibility is the element that keeps relationships going for decades, and a lack of it can spell disaster.   Relationship compatibility is more than physical-you must connect on the mental, emotional, and spiritual level as well. The question of course is, how do you know before you commit to each other .. (Readiness)

How Do You Know You Are Ready to Be in a Relationship?

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 Aaron M (July 14, 2008)  You've been single for a while, or maybe you recently got out of a relationship and you are eager to hit the dating scene again. This time, you want the relationship to last forever, but how do you know that you are ready to begin something new and healthy? First thing you need to do is ask yourself one basic question: Am I happy alone in my life? That's actually two questions in one. .. (Readiness)

You Dont Get to Rest But You Can Be Comfortable With Whats Going On

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 Chandra Alexander (July 11, 2008)  We spend so much of our life asleep, that when we do finally wake up we have a tendency to overstimulate ourselves. We are so afraid of once again dozing off that we create a life that is constantly churning. While this movement makes us feel alive and vital, it also develops a drama in which we star. With something always going on, we get to have a story, an excuse for why our life is .. (Readiness)

You Can Want Something Else Without Knowing What it Is

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 Chandra Alexander (July 11, 2008)  Unaware of its source, we are sometimes anxious and discontent; nothing feels right. It's a free-floating feeling, one we can't seem to pinpoint. We don't hate our job but we really don't like it either. Our relationships are okay, but none of them are close and intimate. We go through all the motions but still feel disconnected from ourselves. The most we can ask is to be attuned to .. (Readiness)

We Have All the Time in the World and Not a Moment to Waste

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 Chandra Alexander (July 10, 2008)  Getting it right takes time. There is no shortcut to consciousness. Often the path is tortuous, sometimes smooth. Each twist and turn adds polish to the roughcut diamond. We are gems in the making, and how intensely we shine depends on how regally we play. To be a real player takes courage. We have to embrace our life as our own and fully participate at every moment. Many of us look .. (Readiness)

10 Stupid Reasons to Get Married

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 Dana Rhinehart (July 10, 2008)  Marriage between two people who love and respect each other is a wonderful thing. However, we all know that not all marriages work out. Even people who are deeply in love when they start a new life together don't always have what it takes to make the relationship work. So, why set yourself up for failure by marrying someone for all the wrong reasons? You need to ask yourself some pre .. (Readiness)

Will is About Making Choices Not Manipulating Outcome

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 Chandra Alexander (July 02, 2008)  Each of us has a personal force. This force goes out into the world ahead of us and forges our reality. This energy is malleable and has the ability to create as well as to destroy. As we watch changes take place, we realize the power of our will and what it can accomplish. As children, we are always testing boundaries. How far can we go? How much can we push? Oftentimes we go right up . (Readiness)

I Am Not Afraid of Things That Scare Me

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 Chandra Alexander (July 02, 2008)  When someone tells us that he or she are afraid, the natural assumption is that that person is immobilized and cannot act. Fear has a way of stopping us dead in our tracks. Something pushes the panic button, and the process stops. The sad part is that the result is not merely a stop, but a “reversing, " as all forward movement comes to a halt and we retreat to a place of security .. (Readiness)

When We Are Vulnerable, We Are Protected

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 Chandra Alexander (July 02, 2008)  We often associate being vulnerable with being afraid. There is a negative connotation to the word; as a result, most of us avoid this unguarded position at any cost. We tend to think of it as a liability or a handicap, but in truth, this exposure creates the opportunity for growth and, ultimately, peace. Two years ago, I had three auto accidents in one year. None of them were my fault . (Readiness)

Workaholics Miss All the Action

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 Chandra Alexander (July 02, 2008)  We embrace our work with passion and devotion, willingly sacrificing family and friends. We believe that the longer and harder we work, the more we will be rewarded. Ostensibly, our focus is on money and prestige, but in truth, we do these things because we feel they will make us happy. But do they? No matter how overwhelmed we become, our minds and bodies racing, we make excuses for .. (Readiness)

Visualizing What We Want Always Cuts Us Short

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 Chandra Alexander (June 25, 2008)  Most of us walk around with an idea of what we want. We have very definite specifications and actively look in the physical world for the mental pictures we carry with us. We have a laundry list of qualities, characteristics, and traits we feel we cannot do without, and in our minds, they add up to the dream job, the perfect mate, the ideal situation. But even when these dreams become .. (Readiness)

Hold the Feeling, Not the Thought

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 Chandra Alexander (June 25, 2008)  For most of our lives, we are concerned primarily with our physical reality. If we can see it, if we can touch it, then it exists for us. We are taught to think, rather than to feel, and are told that dreaming, for the most part, is a useless pastime. Our world is grounded in the concept of matter, and we are rewarded for being practical and logical. We go through life holding strong to . (Readiness)

When You Miss the Signs and Signals, the Universe Ups the Ante

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 Chandra Alexander (June 25, 2008)  Every one of us has an inner voice. It is not weird or accidental that sometimes we hear it. Sometimes it is loud, sometimes soft, but always, it has our best interests at heart. Our problem is not with the quality of that voice, but with our ability to recognize it and accept that it is real. When we are connected to our inner voice we have the edge, the tool to accurately interpret .. (Readiness)

Being Real is Both Substance and Style

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 Chandra Alexander (June 25, 2008)  Like a Bach concerto or a Monet still life, being real is an art. It is a combination of both discipline and finesse-the perfect blending that creates the extraordinary. With discipline, we hone our skills to razor sharpness, and with finesse, we create with a uniqueness that is all our own. Combining both, we attempt to forge a life that has both substance and style. With discipline, .. (Readiness)

We Are Naturally Elegant When We Are Focused

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 Chandra Alexander (June 25, 2008)  On the most mundane level, elegance means the ultimate in sophistication, the epitome of fashion. When we call someone elegant, we are referring to the artistic way a person presents him- or herself and the affect that presentation has on others. We are enamoured-that individual has style. But this type of polish is fleeting, for it is dependent on outside props. If we have a bad hair .. (Readiness)

When is it Considered to Be the Correct Timing?

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 Janice Hilton Freeman (June 24, 2008)  I had encountered all kinds of situations before. I know several couples who have met their online match within a few days and they started dating for several years. I even knew one person who met his match within a single day - because they live in the same neighborhood! Some people took several months to meet up and got married. Some had a successful long-term virtual relationship and . (Readiness)

10 Things You Must Find Out From Your Man Before Saying Yes to His Marriage Proposal

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 Steve Ubah (June 19, 2008)  So, it has finally happened; your man has gotten down on his knee, slid the ring of your dreams on your finger, and asked you to stay with him for the rest of your life. Now what? Well, before you go running into the sunset happily ever after, there are ten things you must find out about your potential husband before you say yes. In order to save yourself some heartache you need to find . (Readiness)

Its Not You, Its Me Or is It?

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 J. Keys (June 16, 2008)  This line has been popularized in television series and a result, has become quite clichéd. Nevertheless, it is a relevant line, which addresses a common grey area in a lot of relationships. In reality, it's not often “you", or “me" but a mismatch between the two, in other words, because both parties do not fit in each other's mold and as a result, the relationship doesn't .. (Readiness)

Our Personality is the Costume That We Wear

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 Chandra Alexander (June 04, 2008)  Getting off the bus in India, I walked into the ashram. The guru in residence was Swami Muktananda, and I was anxious to see what this holy man looked like. I imagined someone with gray hair and a long flowing beard, a soft soothing voice and saffron robes that billowed in the breeze. As I rounded the corner to the back courtyard, I saw a wiry man sitting cross-legged on a stone slab. .. (Readiness)

Partitioning the Life is a Game the Mind Plays - You Have Only One Hear

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 Chandra Alexander (June 04, 2008)  An invisible tie connects all parts of a life and makes it whole. We may chose to split our life into separate components-home, work, free time, and relationships-but we still have only one life. Life is not just a series of random parts stuck together, but an intricate maze that always ends in wholeness. When we understand this inter-locking quality, we approach our life without .. (Readiness)

When You Close One Door, Don't Open Another - Stand There, Another Door Will Open

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 Chandra Alexander (May 28, 2008)  How many times have we heard, “When one door closes another door opens"? We understand this to mean that two things are happening at once-we have our hand on the door that is closing and at the same moment we are reaching forward to open a new door. As we attempt to corral a piece of the future that is not yet ready to happen, we feel the loss of control. We are convinced that .. (Readiness)

Our Experience Is A Metaphor - Only We Know What It Means

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 Chandra Alexander (May 28, 2008)  Sitting nude in front of the keyboard should have given me a clue. Initially, it never occurred to me that my nakedness could be a metaphor for my writing. And yet every writing session started and ended quite the same. I would begin fully dressed, removing item after item of clothing as I neared completion of the topic. At the end of each chapter, I was completely undressed. I .. (Readiness)

Have Everything And Use Everything You Have

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 Chandra Alexander (May 28, 2008)  My girlfriend Marsha is probably one of the most beautiful girls I know and yet, at thirty-five years old, she is still talking about not wanting to be liked for her looks. She has no problem being judged for her brains and hard work; those are fair game, but not her physical beauty. She spends a great deal of time wrestling with her demons and accepting her dysfunctional past, but has .. (Readiness)

The Vacuum Will Draw It In If You Leave It A Vacuum

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 Chandra Alexander (May 28, 2008)  Transitions in themselves are difficult. We leave something familiar behind and head toward something unknown. Even if the move was desired, there is always a period of adjustment, a time when things are not as comfortable as they were. We are in flux and not quite sure where we are going. As familiar props fall away, we enter a rarified zone of unknown possibilities. Before new forms .. (Readiness)

Left Alone, Things Always Become More Of What They Already Are

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 Chandra Alexander (May 28, 2008)  Whether we allow things simply to unfold or we actively seek to make a change depends ultimately on how we feel. Each moment demands we pay attention to the nuance of feeling, so we can decide what to do. There is no blanket answer or quick fix to consciousness. One thing is certain-If we like what we have, we should leave it alone. And if we don't, we should change it. Many of us make . (Readiness)

Feeling Good Is Never Conditional

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 Chandra Alexander (May 28, 2008)  We take a job for the money, we date a certain person because we hear they're a good prospect, and we do someone a favor because we want something in return. We live a conditional life, always trying to control what will come to us, because we are afraid that if we don't, we will not get our proper due. So-we get the money, and the guy, and still we aren't happy. That is because a .. (Readiness)

Work In One Area Doesn't Give Us Points In Another

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 Chandra Alexander (May 28, 2008)  There is a common mis-perception that “living spiritually" entitles us to coast in all other areas of our life. We have assigned a special value to spiritual practices and live as though they had the power to deliver us from our human existence. The more we meditate, astral travel, eat vegetarian food, and remain celibate, the more we feel we are entitled to a privileged life. It .. (Readiness)

What Is A Priority At One Time Is Not Necessarily A Priority In Another

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 Chandra Alexander (May 28, 2008)  Sometimes it takes a long time to figure out the person we want to be with or the new job we want to take. Many of these decisions require intense soul searching and evolve over a long period of time. Often, we inadvertently involve others when we move in a new direction. This happens simply because we are, for the moment, following our gut instinct and, as much as we want to spare .. (Readiness)

Healing Is A Function Of Consciousness, Nothing Else

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 Chandra Alexander (May 27, 2008)  The natural state of the body is wellness. When we are sick, we are out of rhythm with the body's band. This discordant note signals a call to attention, a potent stopping point to re-evaluate who we are and where we are going. Most of us accept sickness, either mental or physical malaise, as part of life. It is true that, being human, we are certainly subject, at any time, to a number . (Readiness)

You Are Always In The Right Place At The Right Time

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 Chandra Alexander (May 27, 2008)  What is true is always true. We either believe we are always in the right place at the right time, or we do not. We can't have it both ways. When we change our philosophy to fit the circumstances, we are attempting to make sense out of something that frightens us. As our life continues to twist and turn in unexpected ways, we feel compelled to explain its unpredictable nature. When .. (Readiness)

When We Try To Quiet The Mind, We End Up Doing The Opposite

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 Chandra Alexander (May 25, 2008)  The mind is like a top. It's spinning so fast it appears to be standing still. It is only when the top begins to slow down that we can begin to experience how fast it has been moving. It is quite a sobering experience when we first get a glimpse of our frenetic mind. The possibility that it might one day be quiet seems far, far away. Our attempts at meditation have been futile-the mind . (Readiness)

It Is Only When We Run That The Creepies Run After Us

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 Chandra Alexander (May 25, 2008)  Adrenaline starts pumping, and it is our hard-wired signal to retreat. Quite naturally, we move away from things we are afraid of. But what if this instinctual reaction is not always in our best interest? To flee from a rattlesnake makes sense, but what about our imagined fears and perceptions? They seem so real, but are they? What if the further we move away from these fears, the more .. (Readiness)

Taking Responsibility For Your Life Means Not Fighting With Reality

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 Chandra Alexander (May 25, 2008)  It would be nice to know why something happened to us, but can we ever know, and does it really matter anyway? Looking for “why" something happened is a trap we create for ourselves. Even if the “why" satisfies us, we have missed the point. It becomes a rationalization, an escape, and a way of not accepting our life at this moment. What's important is not why the bird ate .. (Readiness)

The Universe Works If You Get Out Of The Way

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 Chandra Alexander (May 19, 2008)  Sometimes, things just go our way. We get the job we have been dreaming of, an unexpected check comes in the mail, or things just seem to effortlessly fall into place for no apparent reason. We call it luck or attribute it to simply having a good day, but in truth, we have been given a glimpse of the actual nature of the universe. We tend to think the timing was right, never realizing .. (Readiness)

We Must Work From The Outside In As Well As The Inside Out

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 Chandra Alexander (May 19, 2008)  We are taught that spiritual life requires an inward turning. In doing so, we neglect another part of life that has equal power to transform us-life's outer manifestations. We are so focused on our inner life that we often become immobilized as we wait for a new feeling to overtake us before we make a change. We are looking for that inner green light. Sometimes, we wait forever and the .. (Readiness)

Where Consciousness Expands

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 Chandra Alexander (May 01, 2008)  The Buddha sat under the Bodhi tree for forty years and asked himself the quintessential question, “Who am I?" His patience was infinite and his resolve unyielding. He knew his old way of looking at the world had brought him pain and suffering; he also knew there must be another way. As he asked himself the all important question about essence and heard the answers, he rejected .. (Readiness)

You Are Only Allowed To Think When You Can Feel

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 Chandra Alexander (May 01, 2008)  Can we ever really know anything with our intellect? We can analyze, dissect, and re-assemble thoughts to create an acceptable reason that something is the way it is, but in order to touch the essence of something, we must be willing to bypass the mind and rest in the heart. What we are talking about here is not the romantic or emotional heart, but that spot in the chest that resonates . (Readiness)

It Is Our Fear That Creates Our Bravery

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 Chandra Alexander (May 01, 2008)  We tend to think of bravery as something one-dimensional-either someone is brave or they are not. But we cannot simply decide to be brave. Real bravery results naturally from a state of being that is characterized by both fear and vulnerability. So often we equate bravery with fearlessness, utter abandon in the face of danger. But can we really be brave when there is no fear and nothing . (Readiness)

Creating a Space Within for Having the Right Love Relationship

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 Francis Hosein (April 28, 2008)  You want to have a long lasting love relationship and you think you are doing the right things to have it, only to realize you are not you are sabotaging yourself. Expectation You have an expectation of what the relationship should be like and you believe that you are on the right track only to notice that you do not attract the person and if you did it is not the right person. Logic .. (Readiness)

How To Dress Best When You Have Large Breasts

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 Francis K Githinji (April 22, 2008)  Large breasts can prove to be a real headache especially when it comes to choosing the type of cloth to wear. Large breasts makes a woman's body to acquire a unique figure which calls for unique clothes. It does not matter whether it is office wear or gym wear or casual wear. What matters is clothes that fit correctly. Clothes that do not attract unwanted male attention by making you .. (Readiness)

To Baby or Not To Baby

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 Lizette Balsdon (February 27, 2008)  Let's face it, second to cute little dogs such as Paris Hilton's Tinkerbell, a baby on the arm has become the latest fashion accessory. We no longer wait for the wedding band and white picket fence to have children and many mommies are now doing it for themselves with the help of artificial insemination. For infertile couples the option of IVF is available, or we can just adopt a .. (Readiness)

Are The Two Of You Ready For Intimacy?

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 Dr. Gilda Carle (December 25, 2007)  The romantic heat between you and your new love is on-and you're in h-e-a-v-e-n! Your relationship is clearly heading toward the bedroom. But before you sway in that direction, slow down for a second. After awakening from your lust, will you ask, “What was I thinking??" If you're a person who isn't comfortable with casual sex, and only wants to get naked with prospective long-term . (Readiness)

How To Win Back Ex - Think About Why Do You Want Her Back

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 Andres Berger (September 02, 2007)  Losing someone with whom you have lived for a few months, a year, ten years or longer can be a devastating experience for some men. Sometimes we come to realize a break-up is the wisest decision and is really a good thing. The assumption is a break-up is always bad, and in need of fixing. However, when we look realistically at some reasons behind the breakup, we discover the .. (Readiness)

Thinking of Popping the Question? 6 Tips for Getting the Response You Desire

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 Steve Shannon (June 09, 2007)  If you have gone over a million scenarios on how to pop the question to your girlfriend, you are not the only one. Proposing to your girlfriend can be one of the most difficult and stressful times you will ever face. But at the same time it can be the most unforgettable moment as well. Here are 6 tips to consider when popping the question. 1. Ask for permission Although it certainly .. (Readiness)




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