The question, “Did I marry the right person?" is often asked when one or both of the spouses no longer feels the romance in the marriage and when doing things for their partner becomes more of a chore rather than a pleasurable act of love.
Once married, that question is of no importance. You will just waste your time, energy and perhaps precious tears in trying to figure out whether you're truly meant to be. It is good to look at the happy couples who seem always in sync as role models, but never think that just because your husband or your wife is not like the ‘ideal couple’ that you have in mind means he is not the right person for you.
So many relationships have been broken because of the unending search for a “perfect spouse". When the ideals that you have in mind have not been met, you tend to ask yourself whether you're truly meant to be. When the “romantic feeling" starts to fade and you're no longer being swept off your feet, you begin to wonder whether the feeling is gone.
Make no mistake about it. Love is not a feeling. It is, rather, the willingness to extend oneself for the spiritual growth of one or the other. Love is a decision and should not be mistaken as a feeling which is fleeting.
The key to succeed in marriage is not finding the right person. It is learning to love the person you found. Don't expect your man to be a perfect partner as you are not perfect, but if you will just try to shift your focus, being perfect for each other is not impossible. Instead of wondering whether you married the right guy, why not contemplate on this: How could we be perfect for each other?
Adora C. Ganir
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