The divorce rate in China – as I have mentioned in a previous article – has grown prodigiously following the country having adopted a more capitalistic model in the late 1970s and whilst the country’s divorce rate is significantly lower than the majority of its western counterparts – at just 1.85 per 1000, compared to 2.8 in the UK and 3.4 in America – the Chinese post office has revealed an inventive and romantic plan in an attempt to promote marital bliss.
On their wedding day, each half of a couple will sit down and write their partner a love letter, but this letter will not be exchanged later that day, no, it will be sent directly to the post office and then forwarded to each spouse on the day of their seventh anniversary.
The idea is centred on the concept of the ‘seven year itch’, the argument that all couples will, following seven years of marriage, begin to question how happy they are in their marriage and possibly consider a divorce. The letters, therefore, are designed to remind each spouse of their wedding day and the love that they felt for one another when exchanging vows. Seems like a wonderfully romantic idea, but I have thought of one or two faults.
Sadly, many couples separate long before they reach their seventh anniversary – whether this is through divorce or another reason – and there appears to be no way to cancel the service. Say then, that a couple separate after three years, divorce and begin new relationships. It would be disheartening for the former spouse themselves to open their former partners love letter, but their current partner would more than likely be ravaged grief.
Worse yet, what if, god forbid, one spouse were to pass away. I realise that it’s a morbid thought, but it does happen and just imagine how a person would feel if they were to open a letter from their deceased spouse on what would have been their seventh anniversary. On a day that would almost certainly be besieged by sadness, such a letter could make the day in question even worse.
I shall refrain from making further criticisms, however, as these small problems are easily rectified and are little more than one flaw in an otherwise delightfully romantic and refreshingly optimistic idea.
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