When you break up with your boyfriend or girlfriend, it may be difficult to talk to them or even see them. It's doubly difficult when you see them with someone new. It's important that you handle yourself in an acceptable manner, and that you feel good about it. If there are children involved in a breakup, it's extremely important to maintain contact with your ex, if only for their sake.
First and foremost, maintain a civil attitude when you talk to your ex. If you don't have any ties to him or her and there's no reason or desire to see them, DON'T. If the breakup was too painful for you to think about, seeing a constant reminder of the hurt you went through will only bring you back to square one of the healing process. However, not everyone is able to cut ties so easily.
As mentioned above, children are a big reason that people are tied to a relationship for life. As a child of divorce, I know how painful it can be not only for the parents, but for the children as well. NEVER let them hear you fighting about ANYTHING. No matter what you say to them, they will think it's their fault you are fighting. If you can't have a conversation with your ex without it evolving into a fight, don't talk in front of your children. It's also very important for you to tell them and show them how much you love them and how important they are to both of you.
If you are not tied to your ex with children, it may be a bit easier to deal with each other. Having a positive attitude and taking the high road is a great way to go. Say hi if you see him or her on the street. I'm not saying you have to go out of your way to be overly friendly, but keeping things at a level that you both are comfortable with may help you both to move on and forget about the pain of the breakup.
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