After she breaks up with you and in many ways you've come to accept this fact, it is quite natural to begin to wonder what you did wrong and what you could've done differently to make the relationship work.
While personal self growth is great and usually what you are trying to accomplish when you reflect back on your relationship. The challenge of looking at your past relationships is actually two fold.
- She isn't a good source for you to use in regards to your own personal growth after she breaks up with you.
- If you didn't recognize the problem while you were in the relationship odds are you still won't see it afterwards either. Even though you will be able to see whatever she points out as the cause.
After a woman breaks up with you now is the time to simply improve yourself in all ways by doing things to work on you. If you must look at your past relationship, figure out what you liked about the relationship and what you imagine you would have liked that way you have a good idea of what you are looking for in a relationship. Also, feel free to spend a certain amount of time exploring those things that you didn't like or could have done without in the relationship.
After the break up you have the opportunity to become more of the man you want to be so that you can attract the type of woman that you want to be with. Yet, the challenge that you will face now is focusing on yourself enough and changing into the better and more powerful you so that you naturally achieve what you want rather than changing into a man you think your ex would have stayed with or would want to get back together with.
Teddy Shabba is a Dating Coach for Men who has a daily newsletter that provides you with a wealth of information on how to be more successful with women. You can sign up for the Teddy Shabba Dating Advice Newsletter for Men now.
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