After a woman breaks up with a man and for whatever reason he does not see any alternative other than getting back together with her, assuming that she really does intend to no longer be with him, it is easy for him to become stuck in a disempowering state.
When you fail to realize that you have alternatives other than getting back with her after she breaks up with you, you have nothing to guide you or follow when a choice must be made.
Whether you like it or not when a woman breaks up with you, getting back with her is a destination that is not on any map that you own.
You become stuck in this situation because getting back with her gives you the illusion of going in a direction but in truth you are stuck because you cannot determine a new direction to go.
Once you recognize what trying to get her back really is which is a stuck state; you can begin to let go of her and all of those emotions and see clearly many of the different options that you have.
Now, you might not discover the best option for you immediately, however moving on in any way is more likely to get you to where you want to go as opposed to staying in the stuck state of wanting her back in your life.
Of course the good news is that if there ever comes a day in which the woman who broke up with you changes her intentions into one where she wants you back.
You can always change your direction if you want at that time and meet her in the new relationship that the two of you want.
In the end, after she breaks up with you change is going to happen.
Either you change into a person who is stuck on trying to get back a relationship that no longer exist or you can change into the man who is now moving into a direction with the intent being to get what you want.
Teddy Shabba is a Dating Coach for Men who has a daily newsletter that provides you with a wealth of information on how to be more successful with women. You can sign up for the Teddy Shabba Dating Advice Newsletter for Men now.
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