When a relationship breaks up, there is a good chance that you are feeling very much at a loss. There was something in your life that was giving it a great deal of form and structure and when it is gone, you'll find that it is very easy to feel a great deal of despair and confusion. The truth of the matter is that you don't have to feel that way for long. And what's more, there's a very good chance that you can actually save your relationship and stop a break up dead in its tracks - even if you're the only one who wants to get back together.
Let's start by taking a look at a few steps for getting through the first stages in a break up. But remember, down below at the end of this story you're going to want to check out the tactics I've found that can stop your break up and save your relationship.
Immediately following a break up ask yourself if there's anything you've always wanted to try, but haven't had the time for. You'll find that being able to distract yourself can go a long way towards helping you feel better. Whether you decide that you want to adopt a cat, try hang gliding or simply go for a road trip, you'll find that this is a great time to do it, so seize the opportunity to distract yourself and even to learn something new.
Plus, this will give you the needed distance to start to put together your plan for getting back together with your ex, if this is what you want. Also, finding other things to do shows your ex that you can have fun without them - this is one of the things that's going to help you win them back (see below for more).
You'll find that if you have recently experienced a break up that you might not want to do anything at all. The problem with turning into a first-class couch potato is that there is a good chance that you'll simply stay one! When you get up and moving, you are creating changes in your body that will affect your brain. You'll find tat you can literally make yourself feel better through exercise; not only can you get in shape, you'll feel better too. And that new buff body won't hurt when getting back into the dating game, or winning your ex back for that matter.
Talk it Out
Find people who you trust and who will spend time listening to you so you can simply get everything off your chest. Be willing to analyze your relationship, figure out what went wrong and figure out what the problems were. Unloading in this way can be instrumental for moving on, and you'll find that you can learn a great deal simply by making sure that you know just what happened.
Another plus here is that you'll be better able to avoid those same mistakes in future relationships, or in your second “go-round" with your ex once you get back together.
Get Them Back!
For many people, this is big one! Let's say you're not the one who wanted the break up to happen. If that's the case, then no doubt you're looking for ways to stop it - to convince your ex that they made a mistake.
While that may seem like the logical thing to do, it's actually most often a mistake. But, there are definitely some ways to make this happen - some “Jedi Mind Tricks" you can use to convince your ex that they made the biggest mistake of their lives in breaking up with you. A lot of these techniques, like I said, definitely go against conventional wisdom. But that's exactly why they work so darn well!
Check out the links below to see what I'm talking about. It might just be the smartest thing you do all day!
I've collected an amazing amount of resources on how to get over a break up and, more importantly, how to stop a break up dead in its tracks! For example, watch this quick video (it's under 10 minutes) that explains the very first thing you must do immediately if you want to have any hope of winning back your ex.
Next, this how to get over a break up guide will help you understand what went wrong in your relationship to begin with. Good luck with everything. I hope this helps!