We all have things about ourselves that we would prefer to keep hidden from others. It might be an embarrassing habit, like picking our nose, or it might be the fact that we lost a huge amount of money in the stock market. Maybe you experimented with drugs or gave up a child for adoption.
Your partner could be hiding things from you, too. They may not be telling you everything you need to know. It could be some niggling thing, such as the fact that they don't always pay their bills on time, it could be something big like paying for child support.
If you want to learn more about your partner, which you definitely need to do before you get married, you need to ask questions. It would be pretty awkward if you got married and then discovered later that your partner went to jail once. If you demand to know why you were never told this, don't be surprised if your partner shrugs and says, “You didn't ask. "
It can be hard to ask pre marriage questions about things such as finances, children, and any skeletons in the closets your partner may have. It can be even more hard to answer the same questions yourself, since none of us likes to be shamed or seen in a bad light. However, these questions must be addressed if you want to make sure you're choosing the right person to spend the rest of your life with.
Before we go any further, please understand that I'm NOT advocating that you spy on your partner or use underhanded methods to dig up information about them. Successful relationships are built on a foundation of trust, and if your partner finds out you violated that trust, they'll be justified in leaving you.
Unfortunately, that means you have to trust that your partner isn't going to lie to you when you ask hard questions. However, if your partner is willing to lie to you about one thing, chances are they're lying about a lot of other things too. After a while, liars tend to ensnare themselves in the complicated webs they weave. Listen to what your intuition tells you.
One of the biggest reasons marriages fail is that couples don't learn enough about each other before they walk down the aisle. They don't ask pre marriage questions that reveal how compatible they are.
Don't make that same mistake. Michael Webb's 1000 Questions for Couples will bring you closer to your partner and help you create a lasting, happy marriage. To learn more, visit http://questionsbeforemarriage.com