First dates can be nerve-wracking on so many levels. From picking an outfit to deciding on a place, each decision has an affect the success of the date. Having specific plans and goals will ensure that the process goes smoothly.
1. Dress Code
When going on the first date with someone, you should determine how you want to be viewed by that person. Do you want them to see you as a high end escort, potential real estate agent, or potential spouse?
How you dress will affect their perception by dictating how they see you. Too much cleavage presents yourself as simply a short term fix. Attire that is too business appropriate will make the situation tense. Dressing in a way that is welcoming and comfortable for you allows them to guage where your standards are, as well as to get to know you for you.
Do not over think as you go through your wardrobe. You want to dress presentably, but you also want to make sure to be yourself.
When you decide on the location and time for the date, do so wisely. You should pick a place that lets the person know your intentions for the future with them. Taking a date to a gentlemen's club will ensure that you have a short, physical relationship.
A date to the movies may seem like a good idea, but in theatres talking during the movie is discouraged. You want to make sure you have ample time to see and talk with your date. An ideal date is to dinner at a comfortable restaurant. Also keep in mind the price range. Your first date sets the pace for the rest of the relationship.
Going to an expensive place implies that you have plenty of money to spend, and that you are willing to spend it. On the other hand, going to a cheaper place might offend your date. Pick a mid-range location. The details of the first date do signify the standards for the progression of the relationship, so they should be carefully considered.
While dates should be fun and relaxing, they are important for setting the tone for the rest of the relationship. You want to make sure that you present yourself well while also ensuring the other person's happiness. This can be a great start to a new beginning, or a terrible trip down a dead-end road. Planning carefully will help to avoid the latter possibility.