If you have been enduring a painful break up, your mind probably isn't thinking too clearly or rationally. There's a high probability that your mind is rushing around looking for things to do repair your relationship. Making decisions and take action in those first few days subsequent to the break up, you will probably wind up making things worse instead of better. If you are genuinely interested in how to get a woman back, the solution is a lot easier than you might think. You have to take it slow and take baby steps instead of asking for a leap of faith.
I've been enjoying the loving company of the same woman for twenty-one years. I've been in the marriage and wedding field for the past 10 years. During that time, I've seen quite a few men and women that I could tell were going to be together forever and I've seen couples that shouldn't have even considered getting married. After spending a lot of time researching what makes relationships successful I think I've got a really successful formula to use when you're trying to discover how to get a woman back.
Huge first steps rarely work. Let's state that right up front. Making a phone call to your woman (or, God forbid, try to text her in this world today where technology can't convey emotion) and tell her that you want to get back together with each other, you can forget it. Not interested. She just ended it with you so why would she even consider getting back together with you? Trying to get right to the end game from day one isn't going to be very successful. Relationship repair has to be a slow, gradual process. You have to re-bond with each other and think about what it was that brought you two together in the beginning. Getting back together now means, in her mind, “I'm wrong. He and I can go back to where things were and everything will be hunkey dorey. "
Instead, try to let things happen more naturally. How do you eat an elephant? One bite at a time. Take just one bite instead of the entire elephant. Let a little time pass (perhaps a couple weeks?) and give her a call (do NOT do this via text messages). Simply ask her if she'd like to go get coffee after work. This can be really a non-threatening way to start to get back in her head. Just meet her on neutral grounds (like a Starbuck's) and just talk. Don't approach this first meeting with the expectations of repairing your relationship immediately. Instead, just talk and have coffee. Try to use this time to see if the “romance" is still there and use that to build on, over time. Slow and steady will always win the race.
Remember, if you are on the verge of a break up, you are going to feel vulnerable and have lots of negativity swirling through your head. It's critically important to understand that there is very little chance you are going to heal that all at once. Only by a slow and steady healing process will you give yourself the chance to return to normal. Try not to give in to the temptation to fix the problem in one big leap of faith. Chances are the events that lead to your break up didn't happen all at once. Fixing the problem probably isn't going to happen that way either.
I've started a website called How To Get a Woman Back where I talk about my thoughts on relationships and techniques to heal the damage that people often do to them. I have just posted an article on my website talking about the ideas in this article in more detail. Check out the article by clicking here . .