First of all I want to say that I love grind dancing, and in this article I will try to give you my best grind dancing tips.
I have been grind dancing with girls for about fifteen years, since I was about twelve or thirteen years old. This is one of the best types of dances to meet girls in a club or dance. It works especially well for those who are shy of going up and talking to girls, as when you grind dance, you let your body do the talking. If you get good at grind dancing, then girls will love your company and wont mind you dancing with them.
The most important grind dancing tip I can give you is to have a good rhythm. Being able to follow the beat with your feet and hips is the key. The objective you want to achieve is to grind with your dance partner at the same rhythm and following the beat of the song, The beat of the song is regulated by the bass. Some R&B songs will have slower beats or tempos, as other Hip Hop songs will have faster tempos. This will force you to change your motion to follow the song.
If you feel you do not have good rhythm here are a few exercise you can do .
1- Whenever you hear a song, try to tap your feet or clap your hands or tap your fingers on a table to the beat. If you do this with regularity you will see a difference and you will be able to follow the beat more closely.
2- Try to detect the general beat of every song and try to move your hips to that beat, trying different tempo beats will help you as well.
Now for the dancing part. Like I said before, the object of grind dancing is to dance with a partner, at the same beat and following the beat of the song. Girls will get turned off if you do not dance at their beat, as you will make your dancing behind, or in front of them awkward. Something I realized to be good at grind dancing is that you have to dance like girls do. If you can copy their exact beat and moves, then you can move in to dance with them and their beat wont be broken and they will appreciate you as a good dancer.
The dance is all in the hips. You will need to be able to move your hips in clockwise and counter-clock wise motions to the beat of the song. The shoulders are also important as they will also help you regulate the beat of the song, popping your shoulders back and forth or up and down will cause your hips to move in the desired way.
You can practice that on your own at home while listening to music, to be able to get a feel for the rhythm. But of course nothing beats actual practice at a club or dance with girls.
More advance moves will be to shift you weight from one leg to the other while moving your hips.
While grind dancing, you will usually start from the back of the girl. If she is a stranger you will want to move in slowly, wait and see if the girl stays near you or moves away. If you get in closer and she stays there , then odds are good that she is ready to dance with you. Move in and grind dance from the back for about a minute, then move away for a few seconds, to show that your not all over her, then move back in. After you will want to take her by the waist and spin her around 180 degrees, to do some front grind dancing. Again do not be all over her, dance close and then move away a little, that way she wont feel treated and you will show her that you know how to dance properly and with respect.
The thing about grind dancing is that everybody does it, but a lot of people don't do it well. You do not want to dance with a girl , humping her like a starving dog until she moves away. The tricks is to dance a little, move away, then come back, move away, dance in front of each other for a little bit, then dance together again. It's all about teasing a little bit, giving then taking away, that is what makes this dance a real starter for a romantic relationship.
Hope this helps and have fun with my grind dancing tips but always with respect