Mr and Mrs Nayar are finally on honeymoon. It has been a nuptials with rather lengthy festivities. One wonders how often the I do’s have to be said? It seems that once is not enough anymore. Elizabeth Hurley and her now husband Arun Nayar have pledged their troth three times in the past weeks. The pledges were spread over continents, performed in different traditions and were celebrated with umpteen changes of outfits, jewellery and attendants.
Does this overwhelming excess mean that they will not be divorced in the next few years? Maybe the divorce rate is so high because people only promise once to love each other till death do them part. On the other hand, perhaps its only celebrities that need to promise more often. That’s because they are so important. Important people need to do things more lavishly, otherwise they have no meaning. And Elizabeth Hurley and husband must be important if the magazine publisher Hello! is prepared to pay a reported amount of £2mill for the pictures of the wedding. That is really a bizarre amount of money to pay for wedding pictures.
Having started out their married life with such pomp and ceremony, one wonders what could be next. Anything else in their life surely will now fade into insignificance against this kind of over the top celebration. How does one cope with this let down? To a lesser degree, the ‘ordinary’ people have also elevated the whole wedding event to a height that was unheard of in past generations. Only royals were inclined to be lavish. It’s not uncommon for brides to spend thousands of Pounds or Dollars on a dress, which will only be worn once, flowers and decorations for a few hours, food, drink and entertainment that is lavished on guests who in many cases hardly know the wedding couple. Aunts and uncles come out of the woodwork for these events.
Whatever the reasons are for people to need to spend so much money on getting married, it regrettably does not make the relationships last longer. In fact it could be interesting to see whether couples married in a magistrate’s court with a few mates in attendance, and a celebratory glass of something in the pub across from the court, might have a better chance of doing the ’till death do us part’ thing. Anybody with some stats?
Anja Merret lives in Brighton, UK. She has recently started a blog and writes on issues that interest her from self-improvement to tech stuff for amateurs. Anja has had a varied and interesting career journey. She started as a high school teacher, changed professions to become an admin manager at her late husbands law firm because this allowed her the flexibility to look after her small children at the time. After many years she left this position to try her hand at an art gallery, moved across to public relations and finally found her niche in education again managing a computer training centre for many years. During this time she also involved herself in writing standards and qualifications in the new media field. 10 months ago she moved from South Africa to join her younger daughter. She now writes a blog and also looks after the business interests of her daughter who is a Flash and Accessibility expert. She has BA (Hons) MBA degrees and on rare occassions she feels like a frustrated wannabe academic. That passes quickly though. www.anjamerret.com