Many people live in the myth that you can stop loving someone. This causes many problems because such a philosophy of life prohibits true moving on, sabotages the beauty of future relationships and causes significant health problems. This article attempts to demonstrate that you can never stop loving someone.
If you wish, take a rose in your hand. Find the perfect one. Red or yellow. Observe this precious jewel of nature, see the gift of it, smell it, hold it, treasure the beauty of it. Now, cupping your hands around it, crush it, squash it, tear it into a million tiny fragments of pulp. This is an important experience that I ask participants of my counselor training retreats to perform, in the understanding of the third law of nature. Impermanence, interconnectedness.
Do you still have a rose? The answer from the ego is no. The rose is still there but the beauty that made it precious is crushed, therefore it is now, compared to what it was before, rubbish for the trash. However, it is possible to consider this from a more conscious perspective and see it differently.
Nothing is missing, it just changed in form. The greatest love you can ever witness is the love of nature, mother nature. Her care and compassion for all humanity is boundless. Nothing is ever mission in any human beings life, it is just changed in form. The rose is still the rose, freshly picked or crushed, this rose is, in all its perfection, complete in any state.
Our expectations are, the rose is “better" in a fresh condition. But are we right. It could be possible that, the rose is presented to us in a perfect state even crushed, but based on a different perspective. Maybe we are stuck in our expectations and need to see deeper into beauty. Maybe we are holding onto ideals and nature is presenting us with new perspectives. It is not mother natures intent to present you with what you think you want. No, her intent is more loving, she presents you with an experience from which you can grow.
The beauty of the rose exists even in this crushed form. But the pious and wealthy individual will demand the rose be returned to the ground and they will command that only a perfect rose will gratify their needs. In a sense they denounce the true beauty of nature in favor of their own perspectives. They have in fact cut themselves off from the great nurturance of the earth, and therefore spirituality.
Emotions come from this separation. There are many people who, because the practice the occasional yoga class or attend meditation retreats label themselves as spiritual. But if their perspective of life is fixed, in that they can only appreciate those things which take the perfect form of their expectations, then they are truly unconscious, less conscious in fact than the individual who, with simplicity, does not consider the arts of spirituality of any real importance.
Nothing is missing it just changes in form. This is one of the great keys to sacred love. In my book, Sacred love, the honeymoon that lasts forever, I have explained the power of this one mantra. With this knowledge, one can transform all difficulty in relationship, and transform it to love. We cannot stop loving somebody. The love can change form, the relationship can change form, we cannot stop loving, just as the rose cannot stop being a rose, even if we burn it into its molecules, the rose exists, in a different form.
In relationship, love exists but emotions can block the feeling. Anger, pain, resentment, fear, judgment, jealousy, insecurity blame, can all rise up to form a fog through which we cannot feel the love we once felt. Then a heartless individual is born. They go about searching for love in a new relationship, but the path is blocked. Their emotion, the fog, blocks the love they feel for the past, and therefore sabotages the future.
If a persons heart is not open to the past, then it will not stay open to the future. This is the certainty of natures third law. The law of interconnectedness. The love we search for already exists, Nothing can be missing in our lives, it can only be in a form that we cannot recognize. This knowledge alone can transform a life, revitalize the energy and passion of any individual who, for one reason or another is holding hardship stories about the past. Truly fast, conscious and sustainable change can only come when this precious gift of mother earth is absorbed into our everyday life.
Live with Spirit!
Chris Walker is a world leading change agent, an environmentalist and author of more than 20 books. Born and bred in Australia, he consults to people and organisations throughout the world on improved relationships, health and lifestyle through the application of the Universal laws of Nature. The result he offers is that we stay balanced, share loving relationships, work with passion, enjoy success, and live our personal truth. To learn more about Chris’s work and journeys to Nepal, visit http://www.chriswalker.com.au