LET’S HAVE A BABY TO BRING US CLOSER TO EACH OTHER.
If your relationship or marriage is drifting apart, having a baby does not remedy the situation. This is a myth that should be dispelled because that is a wrong reason for having a baby.
YOU DON’T USE BABIES YOU LOVE THEM BECAUSE THINGS ARE USED AND PEOPLE ARE LOVED.
Invite God to help you solve your problem instead of using your power and might.
There are cases of people that have become pregnant for people so as to hook them and keep them, but it has mostly ended in shame and regret
BE SURE YOU ARE ALL-ROUND READY AND MATURED FOR MARRIAGE BEFORE COMMENCING ON THE JOURNEY.
- I love him and I don’t want to lose him so let me marry now
- If I don’t hook him, I might lose him to someone else and I might not get someone like him.
- I will grow in the marriage and perfect all rough edges.
These thought patterns are deceptive and dangerous because you don’t have another opportunity after the decision is made, many people have taken this route before but later wished they had been all round ready and matured.
You cannot get all round ready and all round matured completely before marriage but be sure to have left the low level.
Get full details of the seven areas of maturity and how to prepare for marriage in my book “Singles get ready”
GET MATURITY ONE SPIRITUAL.
To be spiritual matured is an essential ingredient for a successful married life, and our single stage is designed to equip us with all the keys and weapons for spiritual maturity.
To marry without spiritual maturity can be dangerous because of the enemy’s attack on marriage. Spiritual maturity is a process, but the foundation is to have a salvation experience and to give prayer, the word and church attendance a priority place in one’s life.
To be spiritually set, you need the following.
- Develop a scriptural understanding for marriage
- Eradicate every myth and devil philosophy from your mind
- Destroy every hindrance and barrier both past, present and future through prayers.
GET MATURITY TWO EMOTIONAL
To enter into marriage without emotional maturity is to enrol for a life of instability and a marriage with external interference.
Marriage is for men and not for boys, so a man must be emotionally strong and balanced, so as to be able to handle responsibility and rule the house.
AFTER MARRIAGE, YOU CAN’T RUN BACK TO MUMMY OR DADDY.
Many singles have used their hands to destroy what they have laboured to build. And they become enemies of themselves due to emotional instability and immaturity.
GET MATURITY THREE-PHYSICAL
Maturity does not comer with age, it comes with the acceptance of responsibility, but marriage is meant for adult and not for kids.
God planned marriage for MAN and WOMAN not for BOYS and GIRLS so it is important for people to attain to a level of physical maturity before considering marriage.
Fixing any age bracket for physical maturity would be a myopic thing to do considering many factors, but when you are physically matured for marriage, there will be peace from God for you to move into it.
Physical maturity and readiness is something that will be so glaring and certified by people. God frowns at any form of relationship that involves children below marriageable age no matter the culture or tradition that permits it.
GET MATURITY FOUR- SOCIAL
Most single Christians are socially backward because they have failed to invest time, money, effort to develop themselves socially.
You can be a spiritual giant and yet be socially inferior and backward. To be a Christian is not a hindrance to social enlightenment, whereby your appearance and dressing is backward, while your mentality and perception is decadent.
Once modesty and morality is observed, social exposure is not a crime.
- Know the proper use of cutlery
- know how to operate the telephone
- learn how to use the computer
- learn how to knot a tie
- learn how to cook variety of food etc.
Sociality is not carnality. God expects us to be relevant to our generation and if we fail to be updated, we will become outdated.
GET MATURITY FIVE-FINANCIAL
Lack of financial maturity is the reason why most people are not yet married and they have become super singles. This is so because of the economic situation especially in Nigeria.
However, you must not wait to have everything before marriage. There must be a balance, because if you wait till the time of your wedding to get an accommodation, furnish it, get a car, buy gadgets etc. you might die of pressure
To be financially mature means.
- to have a moderate accommodation
- to have regular source of income or steady job
- to be able to take care of the basic need of life i. e both the man and the woman
If these things are in place, the two of you can pull resources together to move on into higher realms of comfort.
The lady as well should have a source of income and not be a liability. To marry without a house of your own or a job is to enrol for shame & frustration.
FAITH IS QUITE DIFFERENT FROM FOOLISHNESS.
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