As in the movie ‘The 40 Year Old Virgin', many guys actually are putting the ‘pussy’ on a pedestal. They're putting it as this out of reach ‘fantasy’ and building up the value so much that they are always thrown off by the real thing because it's almost ‘untouchable’.
Ironically I was saying these exact things before the movie came out but some of it was also general knowledge. Even in U2's ‘Achtung Baby’ they were edifying women.
In relational dynamics, we can look at this pedestal phenomenon as a Stimulus-Response relationship.
The woman who has the ‘pussyprize’ is the stimulus where the man is the response. He's drooling, nervous, incongruent, unworthy and so forth because he's given the concept of pussy so much added value in his fantasy world.
It's time to take it down to earth. Anytime a woman is the stimulus when it comes to sex, it is the opposite of nature.
Man is supposed to be the stimulus. And women are always the response in mating relationships. That is why they will act differently around different men; woman is the response. She has to be able to know if she can trust a guy and open up to adapt to his reality enough for mating.
But where did this all come from in the first place? Is it the man's fault for edifying woman so much? After all, the blame always ends up back with the man. That is a lot of burden to take on especially when it's powers beyond you that have used you for their agenda (profit).
It all stems from the social matrix itself. Sexploitation and the edification of women has been used to make trillions of dollars for people other than you. But it's gotten way out of proportion or control unless you really understand the truth of it, it's effect and your relationship to it.
Hey, I used to put women on a pedestal too back in high school. Coincidentally I didn't even date in high school. I used to spend so much time edifying the fantasy of women, but in reality it's actually creepy to women.
Despite the fact that so many of them are upholding this social ideal and expecting to be the stimulus, it's the greatest irony in existence. Think of it as the ‘big test’ if you will.
The answer isn't to be a jerk to push them off their pedestal, the answer is to understand the real dynamics and root behavioral characteristics that are going on.
So many guys try to deny that they have put women on a pedestal (because they ARE on that pedestal socially), so it only makes them more internally damaged and they can't ever do enough techniques to actually become comfortable in their own skin around her.
She's still on the pedestal when they approach and portraying active disinterest isn't going to change that. What they have to do is change their entire paradigm of relationship to her in the first place and they have to know, believe and apply that reality at all times.
Man has to be the stimulus and he has to be TRULY independent in relation not just to her, but to the socially leveraged and sexploited powers that she represents.
When you know your relationship to the power of the most beautiful women in the world BEFORE you meet them (not trying to ‘improve’ your already evident power during the interaction), then you'll notice a HUGE difference in your dating results.
You'll be able to truly stop putting the woman and pussy on a pedestal. You have to bring it down to earth and relational dynamics is exactly how.
Win the initial power game by being truly independent and equal > in relation to her and her powers and then the game really begins. They'll be putting you on a pedestal after they experience time with you and that's how it's supposed to be.
Give women the room to be attracted to you. Their biology speaks louder than (and overrules) any level of social development (despite the pressure to be on the pedestal). It's up to you now to know and live the truth of relational and *** dynamics instead of believing *** videos.
Rion Williams is one of the foremost experts in dating advice, personal power and relational dynamics. He is well-known within the seduction community itself.
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