So many men will get confused when it comes to dating women - period. They will think that because you have to study, learn and re-apply in any area of life that this is also a requirement when it comes to dating and success with women.
Yet, ironically this is the big thing getting in their way of success with women and dating because they're making it more difficult than it really is.
This answer became clear to me when I was playing a video game (which I don't do that often). This video game is not natural. . it's man-made. I am not good at it but I'm getting better.
Anything that is consciously derived by humans HAS to be learned, taught, and worked on to improve mastery. You could consider it a ‘social skill’.
This is the essence behind mastering any skill, any sport or any area of expertise. You could say to even understand quantum physics is not natural, it's also a uniquely human skill.
Mankind has gotten so good at applying himself to learn the necessary ‘skillsets’ required in about any area, that he automatically thinks it applies to dating and seduction itself.
Other experts will even say that ‘it can be learned’. This is the essence behind the entire seduction community and its movement. It's like picking up the video game where everyone starts out terrible but with enough practice and failure (like in any skillset) one can get to a level of mastery.
It's like rising up in a social hierarchy or having more status, experience and tenure.
So the pickup artists will focus on the exact skills like how to approach, what to say, how to carry yourself, etc. They've made a science out of something that used to come secondhand to everyone.
And with enough failure, a man will learn to get more consistent success with playing the video game of ‘dating’. For most real men though, that is too much work and can be psychologically damaging.
Well, the good news and big picture is that the mating process is one of the few things that is not a human-derived or consciously developed SKILL.
It's NATURAL. It's biological. Both men and women were born with ability to know the mating process (look at ‘Return to Blue Lagoon'). It's instinctive and it doesn't just include men ‘sarging’.
Women have to respond but men are being the wrong stimuli and taking the wrong approach; that's part of the dilemma.
What has happened is that we've got so caught up in our social ‘development’ that we just have to ‘unlearn’ a lot of things and get back in touch with our own biological character.
And then, all we have to do is operate on that more natural and emotional level (instead of the socio-logical level where women can easily reject you).
Then it's much easier to find the natural and responsive feminine character/energy within a woman.
That natural character within her is to be cherished but it MUST be differentiated from her socially derived character because there, women are not necessarily saints anymore either.
It's not your fault as a man to take all of the burden, but you must understand your relationship to this behavioral reality so that you can start being a desirable man in the eyes of women.
Rion Williams is one of the foremost experts in dating advice, personal power and relational dynamics. He is well-known within the seduction community itself.
His work focuses on the regaining and improving of real character within frustrated men who do don't want to ‘act', use pick-up lines or techniques to get women.
He teaches modern men how to truly be natural and comfortable in their own skin to consistently succeed with women, attraction and dating. You can sign up for his free eZines and find out more information at http://www.relationaldynamics.org
He also has a free podcast at http://www.lifestyledatingradio.com