How is it that tested and tried techniques are so effective in online dating quests yet they can backfire on real one-on-one dating itself?
The simple answer is that online dating is unnatural; it's a consciously derived system. It's a social tool or mechanism that is somewhat like a virtual reality; it can be learned and applied even statistically for continued success because of it's unnatural nature.
Yes, it's true that you can become very effective at using tested, proven and applied techniques to increase the success ratio of your online dating across the number of different online dating sites.
Ultimately the reason these things can work is because with online dating, women are still looking for a man of value. They are judging each iota of data that they see about a man VERY fast to determine what level of value or quality he has to offer her.
Consider online dating a hyper-extrapolation reality. This is one in which a beautiful woman who gets emailed ALL the time by guys has to sort through all of the different representations to make decisions very fast.
This is done whether you know it or not and it's done based off of what she already sees about you.
If you're posting an online ad, the details DO count because they all add up to form a bigger picture of you very fast.
This includes your headline, photos, profile details and paragraph. Those are the elements which; the higher in quality they are, the better off you'll be.
The best thing to do if you want to be effective at online dating more consistently is to learn from someone who has ‘run the numbers’ and developed the independent representation of each of those online dating profile components.
They can even tell you the kinds of specific things to ‘open’ a prospect woman with when emailing her. Things like that will help you stand out from the crowd of other men who are contacting her.
This is one area of ‘dating’ where it actually helps (and that I unofficially approve of) to potentially make it a ‘system’. BUT,
you can be extremely successful at getting girls #'s and even getting first dates off of online but where it all REALLY matters is when you meet her that first time.
That's the real test. If you become an expert at getting first dates but don't have any consistency afterwards; isn't that a waste of time?
I don't have to run massive numbers because when I get first dates, they become second dates and soforth because the women are interested.
I propose that if you're in a situation like this, to actually work on yourself so that you can have more of a ‘close ratio’ than running the numbers. It saves everyone time.
If you're trying to continue the dating game by running more techniques of what to say and how to act around her on the date, it's likely you won't have many second dates.
Techniques aren't where it's at in the real dating game. They work great to help you get dates online but don't confuse the two. You actually have to BE an interesting man of high character and value who is comfortable in his own skin when you're on the dates themselves.
Use proven techniques to get more dates online if you want (I've just been myself and will still get a small percentage but each one I get matters). But what really matters is if you ARE that man (or greater) than you said you were, and is SHE interested. Getting a lot of first dates can be some bragging rights, but not if you rarely take it further than that.
Combine online dating techniques to get more first dates AND be the guy who consistently gets second dates and you'll have more dates and women who want to be with you than your time can handle.
Rion Williams is one of the foremost experts in dating advice, personal power and relational dynamics. He is well-known within the seduction community itself.
His work focuses on the regaining and improving of real character within frustrated men who do don't want to ‘act', use pick-up lines or techniques to get women.
He teaches modern men how to truly be natural and comfortable in their own skin to consistently succeed with women, attraction and dating. You can sign up for his free eZines and find out more information at http://www.relationaldynamics.org
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