I used to ask myself this question because quite often it seemed like they just weren't interested in physical relationships at all.
So why does it not seem like this? Have you ever been confounded by it all?
You go out and you see a lot of sexy ladies yet they end up rejecting most guys while dressing up so well to attract them in the first place. It would seem at first glance that ironically they're not even interested in sex at all.
I mean isn't it about the greatest irony of all?!
Well, in actuality, women love sex at least as much as men do. But there are differences that DO exist that determine how things are played out on both sides.
You've probably heard it many times in different analogies, men are like bottle rockets and women are like a growing fire from an ember.
Men are more visual. It doesn't take much to get them turned on. We see a sexy woman and we're generally interested immediately. We don't have to find out about her personality, etc.
Women are different. Sure there are some times when they're turned on by the stereotypical Chippendale's dancer but to them, it's more about the total package or experience. It's about how they feel around a man and the characteristics he represents.
And because men are the external reproducers, they biologically want to ‘sow their seed’ (and hope for a crop failure like my father says). They want to sow it ideally with the most desired and beautiful women.
Both men and women want to procreate or mate with the best possible specimen they can. For a woman this means finding ideally an ‘alpha male’. A man who can provide and protect who has good social status and means.
By choosing a strong mate, this will give their offspring the best chance of favor, strength and survival in the future.
Looking at modern day with the advent of birth control, humans are about the only beings that can experience sex for pleasure. And now it can be done with birth control (even abortion) without a woman having to fully worry about the long-term consequences. So she can take part in the pleasures that ensure the propagation of life.
Ok, so if they're dressing up so much and looking so sexy to attract alpha male's to them, then why do they often reject men who are close to it? Or are they?
For a woman she has to be more selective than a man. Why? Because she is the one who could end up with an unplanned child for 18 years after 9 months of pregnancy. So she can't just choose ‘anyone’.
She is looking for the best possible characteristics that a man can represent and bring to her. Good looks is just one of those.
And because she is more selective and the internal reproducer, it will usually take her more time for her mind and body to warm up to the idea of sex (as compared to men). Men want to shoot the bottle rocket off but remember that ;
The fact that women have to love sex (or there wouldn't be continued life) is naturally sound. Her biology ensures that she will respond and when she reaches a certain point of escalation, will take the seed of a man.
The experience for her is (by default) more of a full mind/body experience than it is for men. And the higher in natural character strength the man is, the greater the experience for her and the more likely it will happen in the first place.
So if the mating process is biologically sound, then what has gotten in the way? Social influence. Basically many men have had their natural character (fearlessness, personal authority. . ) repressed. However, women have changed even more.
They are now more ‘logical’ and developed in personality or ‘inner character’ as well as ‘social character’ of social status and popularity.
The dynamics have changed so it's up to you to fully understand them if you want to have consistent success with women and dating. It's because of these dynamics that millions of men aren't acting like men anymore.
I can teach you to apply relational dynamics for pure physiological change and effect. Consider it advanced dating technique.
Women love sex and once you understand the real natural, inner and social games that are going on, you'll be able to connect with women to lead them where they want to go physically.
You can let your natural character be the conduit, leading forward the natural, intuitive and responsive character in her and you'll get what you want with a little patience.
It's more about giving than getting, anyways.
Rion Williams is one of the foremost experts in dating advice, personal power and relational dynamics. He is well-known within the seduction community itself.
His work focuses on the regaining and improving of real character within frustrated men who do don't want to ‘act', use pick-up lines or techniques to get women.
He teaches modern men how to truly be natural and comfortable in their own skin to consistently succeed with women, attraction and dating. You can sign up for his free eZines and find out more information at http://www.relationaldynamics.org
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