Love is a quality of God. Lovers of God, sometimes a door opens, and a human being becomes a way for grace to come through…RUMI
This world would be lonely without love and lovers. Relationships carry the important function of blending the physical/material needs with the emotional, the psychological and the spiritual side.
What do you offer in a relationship? Going into a relationship blindly often spells disaster. It does not mean that one has to prepare a checklist before getting into a relationship. This spoils the spontaneity.
What moves you to accept a commitment and get involved?
- urgings of the flesh, physical attraction;
- dazzled by the glitter of material wealth,
success and social status;
- to battle loneliness or a rebound from a
- a meal ticket; or out of sympathy
- a matter of convenience
There are many facets to a relationship. Each day brings surprises- some are exciting, some can be challenging. At times, underlying issues surface and must be dealt with before it gets blown out of proportion. Face and discuss these issues. Is it emotional, physical, sexual, health, cultural, social, psychological, financial or hormonal? Yes, do not forget the role of hormones.
Financial and economic problems can be devastating if these are not taken cared of. Honesty about the financial state of a relationship is important.
Don't let the flame of romance die. Express your passion through sex, savor the ecstasy. Sex is an integral part of a loving relationship. A fulfilling sex life can bring wonders to lovers that goes beyond the physical state.
When two people can not discuss issues, tension builds up. Discord settles in. This opens wide the portals of discontent and temptation. Apathy becomes a shield. The love that once brought two people together turns sour and bitter.
In anger, things are blurted out without thinking. Issues surface reflecting inner insecurities, doubts and worst- fears. Anger is a tool to vent frustrations which at times is not related to what started it.
Words are the cheapest commodity but can bring about the most damage in terms of emotions, physical well being, mental and spiritual health. Words blurted out in anger can open deep wounds. Words that drip with malice can reverberate for a long time.
Sometimes, what we tend to dislike or disapprove in the other may reflect an inner conflict that has been simmering, just waiting to boil over.
Going separate ways is an easy way out. When lovers find a mutual bonding, respect and love for each other, the channels of communication are open. This paves the way to a peaceful, harmonious and loving relationship. This gives strength to both as their love deepens. This is empowering.
Relationships founded on mutual love, faith and respect tend to ride out the stormy days. There will be times of conflict, difference of beliefs and opinions which can end up in a screaming fight. But deep love can hold lovers together against all odds.
May your relationship be peaceful. May faith and love light your way and keep you strong. Happiness can be yours.
Bonnie Moss writes to inspire and to motivate her readers to explore the depths of their heart and soul and make a difference in this world. She draws from personal experience and her interest in the New Age Visit her website : goldencupcafe.tripod.com