A common misconception among young married couples is that the hard part was dating. Every where I turn it looks as if these couples said their vows and then quit being their best possible self's. They get married and then say a big sigh of relief because they can finally show their faults.
What happens is that slowly the image your spouse built themselves to be is tarnished and one by one the layers are pulled away. You're left looking at a stranger wondering where the man or woman you married went. Their good behaviors turn to bad habits and you can't deal with this new person.
You married this person because you love the image they created of themselves. To win your heart they became the best person they could be. So, why do they stop being their best after the I Do's are said?
This is where the real work beings. You are not seeing your spouse for the real person they are, flaws and all. They may look like a completely different person to you. In a perfect world your spouse would be willing to work just as hard as you at making the marriage the best it can be. However; this is the real world and you should be prepared for just the opposite. To be quite honest I am always amazed when I see marriages that are falling apart at the seams while husbands and wives have careers that are thriving. If only we would put as much effort into our marriages and other relationships as we do our education and jobs then we would be a much happier world.
I challenge each of you to do something everyday to educate yourself and improve your marriage.
Brandi Simon is the owner of Marital Matters where she offers articles and information for those suffering the effects of an extramarital affair and other relationship issues. Brandi is an affair survivor who has successfully rebuilt her marriage from the ashes and offers advice to those who are recovering. To learn more about the website or Brandi, please visit http://www.marital-matters.com .